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  1. #21
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    Congratulations on your twins! I highly suggest hopping on over to the "Birth Without Fear" blog (and/or facebook page) to get in touch with some people there. It's all about supporting women in the decisions they make that are best for them, and being strong. Really a wonderful support network.

    If you want to avoid a C-sections with twins, you need to be a bit stubborn. Perfectly doable barring unforeseen complications, but not so much in many doctors' eyes. I assume you have already, but please discuss these expectations with your doctor if you haven't. You will need to know ahead of time how much you will have to push against him/her, or to gauge whether your doctor's suggestion is actually due to some emergency, etc.

    Praying for you! How blessed you are to have those littles
    Nissa -- Elsa -- Rauha -- Karolina/Karoliina -- Melina -- Lucia -- Saoirse -- Dagny -- Rosemary -- Lydia -- Grace/Gracia -- Teresa -- Eleanora -- Kirsten "Kirsi"

    Einar -- Bjorn -- Ragnar -- Leif -- Pavel "Pasha" -- Soren -- Ruben -- Finn -- Alarik -- Felix -- Daniel -- Brooks -- Dmitri "Dima" -- Kristoffer "Risto" -- Elessar -- Illarion

  2. #23
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    Quote Originally Posted by katieydenberg View Post
    mweath - If you have a family doctor, you should talk to him/her about what you are planning. My doctor trained in Dublin in the first ever in-room birthing hospital. Back then, they used to insist that women have their first baby in the hospital & if everything went smoothly they would be encouraged to have their subsequent babies at home since there was limited space at the hospital. He used to assist with the in-hospital births as well as the home births. He strongly recommended I have this baby at the hospital, even though my first labour went well. His reasoning: In childbirth, everything is life & death. If everything goes smoothly, great. But if something (anything) goes wrong, it's a not a little thing, it's a big thing, and your life & the life of your baby are threatened in a very real way - and seconds count. If something goes wrong in childbirth at the hospital, there are all kinds of machines & specialists that can be there in a minute, whereas if you are at home & something goes wrong, the extra time it takes to get to the hospital can be the difference between life & death. In his view, it seems like a silly thing to do to make that gamble just for the sake of comfort.
    I know there are lots of scary documentaries out there about childbirth at hospitals, and there's the whole holistic /alternative medicine point of view which I don't disagree with, but which I think is being kind of romanticized lately by a lot of people.
    But its just something to think about.
    This time, I'll be delivering with a midwife (and possibly a doula), hopefully with little or no drug assistance, at my local hospital. As horrible as hospital visits are, and as nice and warm and romantic as the idea of delivering safe & naturally in my own home is, once I weighed the risks & benefits I couldn't justify my reasons for wanting a home birth.

    Thanks for the word of warning! We do plan to pursue home birth and have researched extensively the benefits and especially the risks. I have no intention of doing anything based purely on my own comfort, and that played very little part in our decision to pursue home birth. As I re-read my post from earlier I see how I sounded that way, so I want to reiterate that we are pursuing this only after having heard from friends' experiences, lots of research from various sources for and against, and meeting with a midwife in our area. We want to do what is best for me and the baby, and we are quite sure that a home birth is the option we prefer. It may not be a popular decision with many people, and I definitely agree with you that a lot of people have romanticized home birth without truly having the information they should have, but we are confident in this decision at least at this point. We're always open to changing our minds though, so who knows?

  3. #25
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    I don't have any children, but my mom had all three of us naturally.

    Sister #1 (Mom, was 17): She was born in the hallway of the hospital. She split herself while pushing, and had to get stitches. Mom, said that she was worried that they would try to give her an epidural, so she was trying to hurry up and push.
    Sister #2 (Mom, was 19): In my grandpa's car.
    Me (Mom, was 26): Outside the delivery room, while they were preparing. She said I caused the most pain.

    I just asked her, and she said that she couldn't lay on her back for those minimum of 12 hours--I think with an epidural. So even if she had a choice, she still would have chosen the natural method. She said after she rested for a couple of hours, she bathe, went to get something to eat, and then get us. Lol
    While those who had an epidural was still pretty out of it after having their babies days before. She said each time, women were amazed that she was walking around after just giving birth only hours before.

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  4. #27
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    Quote Originally Posted by mweath View Post
    Thanks for the word of warning! We do plan to pursue home birth and have researched extensively the benefits and especially the risks. I have no intention of doing anything based purely on my own comfort, and that played very little part in our decision to pursue home birth. As I re-read my post from earlier I see how I sounded that way, so I want to reiterate that we are pursuing this only after having heard from friends' experiences, lots of research from various sources for and against, and meeting with a midwife in our area. We want to do what is best for me and the baby, and we are quite sure that a home birth is the option we prefer. It may not be a popular decision with many people, and I definitely agree with you that a lot of people have romanticized home birth without truly having the information they should have, but we are confident in this decision at least at this point. We're always open to changing our minds though, so who knows?
    I didn't mean to suggest that you hadn't researched the pros & cons, or that a mother's comfort isn't important (I think it's very important) during childbirth. In my area the whole "holistic birthing" ideal is becoming very popular recently & some women are being swayed toward that without considering carefully the possible consequences. I do like to take a non-medicinal/drug free approach as much as I can, I grow my own medicinal herbs and use home remedies and whatnot whenever possible - and I do feel that birthing with the aid of a midwife as opposed to an OB is much more likely to result in a healthy & safe birth experience for me & my baby. Our hospital stay with our first daughter was horrendous. What was a totally easy, quick, natural spontaneous vagnial delivery- with a healthy baby- ended up becoming complicated (and landed our daughter in the NNICU) after the fact due to negligence of the hospital staff. I wanted very much to have this baby at home and to never go through the hospital system again unless I absolutely had to - but once I spoke with my doctor (who delivered me himself, is very experienced & I trust & have known all my life), I decided to compromise in order to give my baby the very best chance of survival. I still intend to use little or no drug assistance, no epidural & no cesarean unless it is absolutely necessary. Of course, you're in the states & I'm from Canada so our hospital & midwifery system may be quite different. We don't have to pay for our hospital stay during childbirth the way you have to in the USA - maybe if we did that would tip the scales a bit in the Home Birth direction.
    Anyway, nobody can make your decisions for you, and if you have decided for whatever reasoning that if & when the time comes having your baby at home is what is best for him/her, of course that is your right as a mother. I just wanted to state why my husband and I decided a midwife assisted hospital birth would be best for our baby.
    No offence meant & hopefully none taken.
    New username is @ truenature

  5. #29
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    I had a meds free hospital birth with my first and am planning a home birth with my second. My first labour wasn't easy as she had both arms up over her head instead of by her sides, so I had an extended pushing phase (3 hrs). However I had decided beforehand not to ask for pain meds and during my labour it was the furthest thing from my mind - I was so focused on dealing with each contraction as it came. Epidurals are not risk free for either mother or baby. They increase your risk of other interventions and c-section, increase chance of baby going into distress, increase chance of maternal fever, can make baby sleepy and hinder breastfeeding establishment, increase risk of newborn jaundice... I could go on! For me it's just not worth it, especially when I really wanted to feel the birth process, feel the baby coming out of me, and benefit from all that amazing natural oxytocin that flows through your body during and after drug-free births.
    Mother to two lovely kiddos, Mila Arden and Cato Bennett

    Currently dreaming of...
    Atlas, Callahan, Caius, Ezra, Bram, Atticus, Aspen, Sylvan, Constantine, Perrin & Pascoe
    Lyra, Elodie, Elowen, Isis, Artemis, Sylvia, Vesper, Anouk, Willa, Cassia, Elka & Sage

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