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September 30th, 2013 01:17 PM #11Moderator
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September 30th, 2013 01:24 PM #13Member
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Are you actually pregnant?
My answer would really depend on whether you are pregnant (or your sister is?), or a 20 year -old having theoritical discussions.
If you're about to give birth, and BEFORE your sister, the name is yours!
If she's about to give birth, the choice is hers.
My advice, either way, is NOT to commit too hard to any name before you see your baby.
I had a list of 5 great names, not one of which I could use when I gave birth the 1st time.
With my second baby, I was smarter, and waited a few days.
I can tell you story after story of women with "name regret" for committing too soon, or changing their minds after giving birth.
You are naming a human being, give him a chance to look you in the eye... keep an ongoing list and hope for the best!
October 1st, 2013 03:49 AM #15
Eli for his son, although Elias was a top name, which I had planned to use. My sister had a daughter, Isabella, about 6 or 7 years ago. It was one of my all-time top names, and I was so sad to see it go. However, I was still single. Now that I'm married, my husband hates Elias with a passion, and Isabella is so common now that I'd never use it. So time can change your preferences, even your top names.
If you're 100% sure about James, then use it. I know of 2 cousins both named Brigh@m Wilson. In my husband's family, there are 2 cousins both named Meys@m Zolgh@dr. It happens... It might be a bigger issue if you plan to live in the same city, but I only see my cousins every 5-10 years... so it's not such a big issue. James is a great name, in that there are so many nicknames... James, Jim, Jimmy, Jamie, J.P., J.J., etc.
A name is a name... no one owns it. So just take it in stride.INTP Anthropologist Living in the centre of China, married to a Persian, and just enjoying a completely unpredictable life
Emiliana Pari 郑煜曈 '14
Currently stuck on girls
Names I love, but cannot use:
Soren Pasha, Caspian Bardia, Caspar Siavash, Elias Rostam, Simon Kasra
Valentina Parvaneh, Rosalind Tala, Viola Katayoun
October 1st, 2013 07:21 AM #17Senior Member
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I also agree that your sister doesn't own the James name either. Like the other posters have said; if your son comes first, then use it!! My sister and I are going through something similar. I'm pregnant now, but don't know the gender yet. We both want Nathan for our own sons' name. Rest assured though, if mine is a boy now, then Nathan it is!!!!
For whatever reason though, if you don't use James, I like alternates such as: Charles, David, John, Patrick, and Benjamin.
Good luck- be strong!
October 1st, 2013 11:01 AM #19Junior Member
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My first thought when I read your names was James Alexander King _. I have 101 relatives named James in my family tree so I named my son Jamin. I only know two others and would not be offended if you used it. But on the other hand, if you really, really love James, and it has been your name for a while, then by all means, use it. My cousins were pregnant at the same time and both loved the name Haley. Nicole had her baby first, named her Haley Autumn. Melanie named her daughter Kaylee Nicole. No hard feelings, what so ever. I predict once both babies, whatever their names end up being, arrive into the family will be loved as individuals. All preferences in the past.