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Thread: Rant about 'Made Up' Names.
September 9th, 2013 09:29 PM #31Senior Member
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September 9th, 2013 09:31 PM #33
September 9th, 2013 09:31 PM #35~ Proud mother of Violet Elizabeth Rose ~
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September 9th, 2013 11:00 PM #37
First, let me be clear, I agree with you that unique names can and should be used. I think there are so many beautiful names that are underused and unknown by many people. I think we're heading in a direction where more uncommon names will become more and more accepted, but it will take a while for long built prejudices to disappear.
Second, parents who use rare names should be prepared for the way their name choice will affect them and their child. Many people embrace and glory in that and it doesn't bother them, but even if something "shouldn't" be a certain way, that doesn't mean it isn't that way.
I don't mean that a teacher will call your kid stupid to their face or grade them differently, but it's a tested fact that teachers expect different things out of children based on a small amount of information (such as a little testing information, demographic info, or yes, even their name). It's human nature to use whatever information you have to make decisions. Of course it's not always valid, but you can't force people to stop doing it.
It's not against the law for a teacher to subconsciously think that Elizabeth with do better on the spelling test than Jozzlynn. It's not against the law for a recruiter to believe that William will be a more serious and successful lawyer in his practice than Amaisen.Top Names: Benedict Calvin & Noelle Geneva
Olivia/Livy : Darah/Bethel : Eve/Verity
Eli/Solomon : Luke/Zane: Levi/Phineas
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September 9th, 2013 11:19 PM #39Senior Member
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Well, I agree with you. But a lot of times people want generic opinions on forums about the names they like, to get an idea of how a name is perceived. I see a lot of names that sound made up, which are not necessarily made up. But the posters are asking for first impressions of names, and I try to give them that. If I see a name I have never ever heard of, and it looks highly derivative of another name I HAVE heard of, I will generally just say it sounds made up. The bottom line is, many of us are naming kids and are assessing name quality based on *perception*.
Human beings are very judgmental and the world isn't fair. I will name my child with this in mind. What others do is their own prerogative, but when I offer my solicited opinion it will be with the best of intentions.