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Thread: Which surname would you use?
August 20th, 2013 01:36 AM #6Senior Member
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I like the idea of His-Hers or Hers-His, especially if the parents aren't planning on getting married. I'd probably go with whichever order sounds better.
I do know one (married) couple who combined their last names for their child's- so his was Bailey and hers was Anderson and their child's surname was Bailson (not the real names.) I don't recommend that because I would imagine it could be confusing for paperwork, but it's an option that may appeal to you.
August 20th, 2013 02:52 AM #8
I'd probably just use his with the possibility of using yours in the middle or something. My last name is long so I would never want to hyphenate it, but I also plan on getting married and changing my surname.Girls: Lucy, Nora, Ivy, Mae, Willow, Rose, Nessa
Boys: Felix, Philip, Owen, Flynn, Dexter, Henry, Rory, Finlay
August 20th, 2013 03:03 AM #10Senior Member
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- Mar 2012
I'd use hers.
I don't see any reason to use his if they're not married? They both share DNA. Why does the father "need" to have something as a big gold star for participating? It's okay if he were a sperm-donor but since he's not... he needs "something..."? Does the mother not need anything? Is she bailing? I mean, not using her name would be okay if she were a surrogate, but I think an actively involved mother needs something, the father already has 50% of the child's DNA and societal ass-kissing for any level of care beyond the criminally negligent...?
If they decide later to get married, he can take her name.
That's my 2 cents.
August 20th, 2013 04:01 AM #12
I realize you're mocking me but FYI mitochondrial mRNA is different from DNA and only comes from the mother, so that attempt wasn't quite successful. I guess whoever feels they need the biggest gold star and societal butt-kiss can give the child their surname. Yes, I say that with sarcasm. And that is why I took my husband's name even when he offered to take mine.
August 20th, 2013 04:34 AM #14
2. As a rejection of a patriarchal tradition in which a man's ownership of his children is signaled by stamping his name on their birth certificate
3. Because the couple is not married
4. Since women are expected to share their child's surname, this will make life vastly easier for everyone involved.
Just for starters.
I would suggest that everyone who would go automatically to vote the child have his surname or her-his surname (knowing full well that the first name in a hyphenated surname is often dropped or ignored) give a long, hard look at their reasons.Simon, Eloise/Louise/Louisa, Faye, Judah, Thea, Felix, Iris, Cordelia, Roscoe, Lydia, Jasper, Phaedra, Adrian, Lucinda, Jane, Wallace, Finnegan, Sylvie, Charlie, Dashiell, Juniper, Atlas, Matilda, Julian, Alice, Marlowe, Octavia, Jack, Marigold, Archer, Gabriel, Persephone, Raphael, Dov
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