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Thread: Helllllp! Can't agree on a name!
August 18th, 2013 10:03 PM #1Junior Member
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Helllllp! Can't agree on a name!
I'm due with our first baby in December and my husband and I can't agree on a name. Basically he thinks everything I like is "too weird" and I think everything he likes is too plain/boring. Not BAD names, just nothing special.
Our last name is Markowski. We haven't discussed middle names but I'm hoping for Jenks (it was my middle name until I changed it when I got married, my grandmother's maiden name, and the name of my mom's baby before me who died).
I have my heart set on Otto. I think it's perfect. It's a real name (as in, not made-up). Short, easy to spell/pronounce. No crazy nicknames (that I can think of). Flows well with Markowski. And it's adorable!! My only concern is I guess it's a little "out there", but I love it. I do not want a trendy name. Or a boring one. I like traditional, but not super common.
He hates it. Wants nothing to do with it. Thinks I must be joking. He says it's a dog name. Or worse, he says it's a nazi name. I think part of the issue is he's afraid his mom won't like it, but frankly I don't give a crap what his mom thinks.
The thing is, there's no name he feels strongly about. He's mentioned Ian and Blake, which I don't like. The only ones we agree on at all are Owen, which I love but it's getting way too popular, and I think is too Irish for Markowski, and Charles (Charlie). Which is a perfectly fine, good, solid name- but kind of plain and nothing special.
I also like Otis, Hugo, Milo, Theo, Hugh, Jenks (call him Jack), Henry (but too popular), Linus.... He hates them all.
I'm being stubborn I know, but I can't see myself being happy with anything but Otto. He says I'm being selfish by forcing a name on him that he doesn't like. I say the baby should have a name that ONE of us loves, rather than a compromise we both feel "meh" about.
Does anyone have advice in how to get him to come around? Or meet in the middle?
August 18th, 2013 10:57 PM #3Senior Member
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Otto is not an easy name to like. It sounds like your husband has a genuine distaste for it, not just some random vague impression, and you should try to bring yourself to respect that: how would you like it if he insisted that the only name he could possibly use was something that you really hated? Keep exploring for now.
August 18th, 2013 11:05 PM #5
I agree with previous post. I don't think its good to force a name on your partner. Can you imagine if he did that to you with a name you hated? He has a genuine reason to be upset seeing as it is his son too.
Why don't you each make a list of names you like and then give to each other to rank in order of who you like them. Or reasons why/why not you like them.
Or if you find it frustrating, take a break from names for a while. And then come back when tensions are gone.Maddox (Max) James 08.31.13.
Boys Favourites: Holden, Theron (Theo), Aidan, Killian
Girls Favourites: Rosalie, Lucy, Lyra, Isla
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August 18th, 2013 11:11 PM #9Senior Member
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