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August 18th, 2013 09:35 PM #1Junior Member
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Help! We can't find a compromise'
Hello! We are expecting our second boy in 9 weeks. We have a hard time picking boys names. My husband wants to name the baby after his uncle, Conrad, even though he already has a namesake (Conrad's son is also Conrad). I thought about honoring his uncle by using a c name ( my first choice is Chase). The name Conrad is really not an option for me-it just doesn't flow with our last name. We can't agree on any name at all and the arguments are getting ugly and spiteful! It took us 4 years to get pregnant and I hate that picking a name us so stressful. I love the name Chase Jackson. I also love Asher, Archer, Griffin, Sawyer. He likes Conrad, Wyatt, Barrett, Owen. Please, somebody, help us find a compromise!
August 18th, 2013 09:54 PM #3Senior Member
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I would explain to DH why it is off the table for you. That Conrad is already being honored, and then listen to why exactly he likes it.
If you don't like the rest of each others picks, try and come up with a list together. Or come up with seprate lists and then rank each others picks.
I understand your frustration, my DH was hard to work with, but we eventually got there. Maybe give naming a break and come back to it. Or if you feel tensions rising, take some time off it.Favorites:
Boys: Maddox (nn Max), Holden, Thereon (nn Theo), Liam, Jack
Girls: Aria, Rosalie, Lyra, Hadley, Lara, Delilah
August 18th, 2013 10:00 PM #5
Okay 2 things I would suggest
1) Have one pick the first name and the other one the middle name.
Just give into his demand of Conrad, but on the condition that you choose a middle name that you like. Seriously if you do this you have the notion of just referring to him by his middle name on your side as he already has a namesake in use by a family member. He has a nice name that will look presentable on paper for an important job and you can call him whatever you like. This seems very fair and this is the line of argument I plan on using as I like names that are a bit out there... and my brother gets called by his middle name anyway.
2) Find a nice solid name he likes and just search for a plausible nickname you like.
since Conrad reminds me of Conrad Nicholson Hilton (founder of the Hilton Hotel chain) I'm going to use his son as an example.
Conrad Nicholson Hilton Jr was referred to as Nicky.
If you can find a nice solid name he likes... just find a cute nickname.
Also the name Barron which he may also like.
Beau can be attached to almost any name beginning with B.
Full name- Barron... Nickname- Beau
Not exactly sure what names you like
but Chase could easily be a nickname for Charles or even the more proper CharltonI like distinct, memorable, exotic and preferably non-popular names. The kids with unique names wore them so well when I was younger and never got lost in the crowd.
August 18th, 2013 10:12 PM #7
August 19th, 2013 10:12 AM #9
You might be having extra stress in the naming department just because it took you such a long time to conceive this baby. You and your husband may just both be feeling the pressure of having waited for a really long time. Plus there might be (spoken or unspoken) wondering about if this is the last chance for a name you really want? Taking a break to reconnect (go out to a movie or something, anything just the two of you!) might be a good idea right about now. It's WONDERFUL you're finally getting the little one you've been wanting, don't lose sight of that!
Now as for a solution, really you guys' taste is not too far off -- Asher, Archer, Griffin, Sawyer, Conrad, Wyatt, Barrett, & Owen are not stylistic worlds apart here. I mean, it's not like one of you wants Joe and the other wants Archimedes. I plugged your favorites into Nymbler.com and found these I think you both might like:
On Conrad, I think you should use it as a middle name. Obviously your husband wants it very much, and is this his last chance to have it? Putting it in the middle still honors the uncle, but doesn't add yet another Conrad to the family (sounds like there are a lot of them), and you don't have to hear it with your last name all the time. My own husband desperately wanted to use his dad's name, Donald, for the longest time, even though his brother is named Donald (but goes by his middle). I loathe the name Donald and also had a really, really bad experience with a Don, so I didn't want to us it AT ALL. We finally used Donald in the middle - for our third son. I still hate the name but it made my husband SO happy. I don't regret coming around to it for his sake. If you can't stand Conrad and your surname being next to each other at all, as in "firstname Conrad lastname," then just use two middle names, "firstname Conrad anothernameyoulike lastname."
Best wishes and I hope the two of you can come to a happy agreement!