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  1. #31
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    Quote Originally Posted by mill1020 View Post
    Maybe I should go through the Flip video clips we took of him when he was a toddler and pick one to post.
    Yes, please! Let's start a thread called "Honey Badger Wars"!!

    I totally agree with you on the store type of situations, it really is a developmentally necessary thing. I just think that the appropriate timing for giving that freedom can be very different depending on the child. My daughter is just now (at 21 months) getting to the point where she would actually notice quickly that I was nowhere in sight. A couple of months ago, she would've (okay, HAS) been clear across the store, climbing a shelf and throwing things at strangers within 30 seconds. This wasn't even a situation where I didn't see her slip away - she slipped her sweaty little hand out of mine and was just too fast for me to keep up! She only realized I wasn't with her when she fell and hurt herself and she needed someone to kiss her boo boo. A harness would've never worked for us in this situation, either, as she fought it like crazy the one time I tried it. However, I wouldn't knock another parent if it works for them and allows them to get done what they need to! Hopefully they won't judge me for being the lady with the screaming kid strapped into the shopping cart.

    I really think that most people are using them in situations where their child is at risk of being quickly lost, run over, trampled, etc... I personally don't know anyone who uses it on a daily or even weekly basis. I'm sure that changes in a city living situation, because the risk of being hit by a car is amplified.
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    @tk, Will do. It will be hard to pick one that does him justice!
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  3. #35
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    I used to giggle at them when I was in my late teens/early twenties, but I don't think they're so bad now. Not a mom yet, but I could see myself using one, especially in an airport. Traveling is so stressful now (I'm in the US) that I would take any help I could get.
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    I don't want to offend the others and Iam not a mother to judge but these is absolutely cruel imo.I have seen my aunt use leash in my 2 yrs old cousin and I couldn't even look at them. She was crying all the way and in one moment she just stop walking so my aunt though it was appropriate to drugging her with the leash and she was literally on the floor while my aunt was keep moving!!The picture still hunted me on my mind!! I mean leashes are for dogs, right?Children must be free and not be trapped.I understand that some kids are disobeying and the parents worried about their safety but come on there isn't other way to control your kids?
    This is my opinion and I am apology in advance if i'am been rude on someone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bellerose View Post
    I don't want to offend the others and Iam not a mother to judge but these is absolutely cruel imo.I have seen my aunt use leash in my 2 yrs old cousin and I couldn't even look at them. She was crying all the way and in one moment she just stop walking so my aunt though it was appropriate to drugging her with the leash and she was literally on the floor while my aunt was keep moving!!The picture still hunted me on my mind!! I mean leashes are for dogs, right?Children must be free and not be trapped.I understand that some kids are disobeying and the parents worried about their safety but come on there isn't other way to control your kids?
    This is my opinion and I am apology in advance if i'am been rude on someone.
    I can see why you would think harnesses were cruel if this is the only way you've seen them used. I've never seen anyone use a harness this way on a child. Ever.

    Restraining a child is not "trapping" them if it is for their own safety. My child screams when I put her in her carseat. Should I just let her ride on top of the car because that's where she'd prefer to be? Of course not! As parents, we often have to decide between what is popular and what works for our children to keep them safe. That can be very different from one family to another. Your aunt, however, sounds like she could use some parenting classes. I'm sorry that you had to witness that!

    ETA: You could also consider what strollers are used for. They restrain a child so that the parent can move faster. A harness, on the other hand, is not meant to be used to "walk" a child (as some people might a dog). It's only to keep them from darting away, the parent still should be slowing down to the child's pace and walking with them.
    Last edited by tk.; July 22nd, 2013 at 08:37 AM.
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