View Poll Results: Thoughts on Leashes?
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July 18th, 2013 10:25 PM #16Senior Member
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I'm not a parent yet, but I'm a nanny and the little boy I care for has a "leash." I always feel a bit like I'm being judged when I use it, probably because my mother judged parents who used one. She never used them with me or my brother, but we were both clingy, quiet kids and we didn't stray far even as toddlers. As for the little boy I care for, he's extremely busy and while he listens pretty well, he is so easily distracted and will be in one place one minute and yards away the next. I've been happy for that leash on occasion! His is a monkey backpack with the monkey's tail being the leash, so when we go out I usually attempt to gauge his temperament and will often coil the leash part around the monkey's head. That way, he can run around but I also have something to grab on to in a flash if necessary. We mostly do parks/small zoos though, so they're never super busy or close to roads. I imagine if we went to shopping centres or the city more often I'd be depending upon that thing.
I think some of the judgement comes from thinking that parents aren't able to control their children without the leash--but having experienced using one and not using one with different children, I think it's more a child-by-child case rather than some parents "being in control" and others not. The kids I've taken out have all been very well-behaved, it's just that some are busier than others and require that physical reminder that they shouldn't stray too far.Writer. Name lover. Dreamer.
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July 18th, 2013 11:05 PM #18Senior Member
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I'm glad I found this thread ... I just bought my 17 month old a frog backpack leash (or reins/harness/whatever you want to call them). We are taking an international flight next month and I am flying solo with my little one. I am going to have to lug around our carry on bag and a convertible car seat and my son hates sitting in his stroller.
Clearly, I don't have a problem with it. My son has been walking since 10 months and is FAST and refuses to hold hands. Since he would rather walk everywhere, I would rather be safe than sorry in crowded places. I am thoroughly prepared to get some dirty looks though when I use the leash in the airport. Although, I would probably get even dirtier looks if my son was screaming bloody murder because I confined him to his strollerD.S. lil Bam Bam
July 18th, 2013 11:05 PM #20Senior Member
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We don't use them, but I don't judge parents who do. Like mill1020, I sometimes do a doubletake and think to myself why do they need that for just one toddler, but I don't really consider that judging. Everyone has their own parenting style. It usually suprises me more because I feel like, for me, it would be more a hassle than not having a harness/leash/rein.
Before going to any public place or activity, we have a discussion at home about the rules and reminders with the kids. We repeat the rules again in the car before we get out. Our toddlers (2 1/2) know they must obey us in these settings because the same rules apply at home.
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July 18th, 2013 11:07 PM #22
Some toddlers have a tendency to bolt unexpectedly so I think these make a lot of sense for them. I have four children and they are all so different. Two of my daughters were very compliant and would never run away from me. My 2nd daughter was very busy and had zero impulse control. (It's too soon to tell with my youngest child.) When I was out in public with my 2nd daughter, I always had to have her strapped into something. I could not rely on her holding my hand. This was for her own safety. I never used a leash because she didn't mind her stroller, but I can see how this might work the best for some. No judgment here. Whatever works.
July 18th, 2013 11:15 PM #24
I also do not understand why calling it a leash is offensive. Leashes make me think of dogs and reins make me think of horses.
While I am personally not a fan of them, I realize that once I have my own little one, I may very well change my opinion. I am going to try my darndest to not have to use one, but at the end of the day it will come down to my child's safety.Step-Mother to three lovely children - Josiah Lewis (14), Stella Evangeline (8), and Emma Catherine (4)
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