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Thread: HELP! Hubby is NUTS!
July 29th, 2013 12:30 AM #61Senior Member
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Google "lemon clot essay". It's graphic (and a bit crude), and is sort of worst case scenario, but any of it could happen. It was written with regards to having your in laws staying with you post partum, but I think it holds even truer for sitting on a plane and then being with your inlaws halfway across the country in a place that is strange to you.Tara, proud mama to a Honey Badger
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July 29th, 2013 12:50 AM #63Senior Member
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I know I'm not a mom yet, but I don't think you should go. Your due date is literally a couple of weeks before this and whos to say baby will come on time? It's your first, and a lot of first borns are late from what I have read, right? Obviously it's different for everyone but I hear late babies are common with firsts. You could be taking a 1 week old to Disneyworld- not a fun idea! Plus, she won't have her immunizations if you are planning on immunizing. I feel like even if you sit in the hotel/villa the whole time, you would be more comfortable sitting in your own home with your newborn. Also this is going to be a huge family event. Do you know how many people are going to be touching your baby who has barely any shots yet at that point? I know it would be a fun trip but the timing is bad. I liked someones suggestion of having them stop by you guys before they go down to Florida to see the baby, if that's possible. Like an overnight layover maybe and then they could fly out the next day to FL. I don't know, good luck girl! and Congrats on the baby!PREGNANT with our first!!!
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July 29th, 2013 08:51 AM #65Senior Member
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I still think that you should tell him to go ahead and book his plane ticket/hotel room/whatever, and that you will potentially catch a last-minute stand-by flight after the birth once all the unknown variables are known. It's actually kind of a blessing that he's a pilot and that flying stand-by is an option. It means you can very fairly and reasonably say "maybe." No one can expect more of you than that.November 2007 - Started TTC
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July 30th, 2013 12:47 PM #67Senior Member
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@cvdutch I am on your side- I think it sounds crazy! I am due a few weeks before you and we have already announced that any one on either side of the family interested in seeing us or her (and Ramona) at Christmas is welcome to come visit us. I had a c-section, numerous bfeeding problems (and my first of 3 bouts of mastitis which is exactly like the flu with a super high fever and total misery but on top of that your boob hurts so bad you feel like you may need an amputation) and the onset of pretty serious post-partum depression all around weeks 2-3. Obviously many people have none of these issues but that is what I think of when I envision the first weeks after birth and I am not making any promises to be able to do anything!
One of the hardest things as a first time mom is to learn how to trust your own instincts. I say trust them here! You don't think it is going to work for you, so don't go. You wish it would but you don't think it will. Tell everyone you aren't going. If it turns out it will work and you feel great and baby is doing great and sleeping 5 hour stretches and nursing perfectly and not colicky and gaining weight and everything, buy a last minute ticket (how long is the flight??) and surprise everyone! There are going to be a million times when people don't agree with your parenting decisions so you are going to have to get used to it anyhow.
Also your doctor is crazy! My pediatrician was definitely pro-cocooning and scared me to death about how dangerous a fever is for a baby. This is going to be right in the middle of cold and flu season. The germs are definitely my biggest concern with a newborn this time of year.Mama to little Ramona Mae 3/2011 and Sylvie Joy born 11/2013
August 1st, 2013 12:27 PM #69
Orlando, FL and quite honestly I would never ever take my child to Disney over the Christmas holidays, even at 4 years old. It is a Nightmare. The constant walking and waiting and standing isn't fun by yourself, let alone worrying about a [possibly screaming & crying] baby. Even more concerning is just the sheer amount of germs and illnesses. Let me tell you, Disney is nowhere near clean on a good day. And that is just based on what you might touch. Now add in thousands of people coughing and sneezing and wiping their noses around your brand-new baby. Never. (I am shocked your OB thinks it is ok, and have to assume a pediatrician will vote no especially during that time of the year with endless colds and flu and coughs, and in such a crowded place where sickness spreads so easily. But if you don't actually go into the park you should be fine.)
I didn't take Dom out until after one month old and then it was a quick but nerve-wracking visit to the baby store where I had strangers trying to touch his face, breastmilk leaking out of my shirt/bra/and liners in the check out line, and resulting in tears. And that was without an audience of family members. I think the point someone brought up about being embarrassed, or feeling pressure to look like a perfectly-adapted new mom is really valid in your case. Chances are you'll feel painful, swollen, hormonal, tired, overwhelmed, overprotective, and all around just "not in the mood" to deal with a lot of people for a long period of time. BTW villas are just larger, fancy-on-the-outside hotel rooms on Disney property, but they are really no different than any other room you've ever had.
On top of normal germ issues I could forsee frustrations for you with breastfeeding in public; Fatigue for you and the baby (some infants just aren't able to sleep in a loud environment, which leads to exhaustion and poor eating schedules and of course crankiness); Mountains of unwanted and conflicting "advice" from family members that just end up making you feel like a completely incompetent mother (no matter how hard you try to ignore them, there is only so much you can take before it starts to get to you, especially when it's about outdated or unsafe practices). And all of that assuming you have no lingering medical complications, no sign of PPD, and somehow magically can manage to not be annoyed with your husband the entire time for making you go when you've explicitly said you aren't comfortable with it. After childbirth is a time for you to recover, not a time for you to 'grin and bear it' to accommodate others in my opinion. Here's hoping that when she is born everything else, including these plans just melts away into the background and you won't have to deal with it. Good luck!