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July 10th, 2013 01:21 PM #1
Boys vs Girls
It has become increasingly apparent to me that I prefer naming and talking about names of girls. I just don't seem to be as bothered about the boys. I currently have four long standing members on my signature that are there just to balance it out [I am not particularly in LOVE with them and I don't think I'd even mind if my boys were called the popular Jack or Oliver] I don't get as excited and that spark of joy I get with the girls just doesn't happen. Is it just me being selfish or do other people experience gender naming preference too? Why don't I enjoy boys names? And...how can I get excited? I feel like a failure of a namenerd!
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July 10th, 2013 01:25 PM #3
Well, just take a look at the girl's forum compared to the boys. It's about twice as big, twice as fast. Women tend to want daughters just as men tend to want sons; it's more fun for us to imagine a pretty little girl. Like when we played with dolls. You weren't playing with boy dolls, just girl dolls. Same thing, except bigger.I’m just trying to behave as I think a friend should behave. Granted, I haven’t had much practice.
~Elphaba Thropp, Wicked, by Gregory Maguire
July 10th, 2013 01:59 PM #5
Harry Potter scar on my baby doll's head and frequently stole my brother's Action Men (which I still have!), all of which probably has something to do with my boyish preferences.
So I have a gender preference too but I'm the polar opposite of you! I could happily name many many sons and love all their names but girl names will be the death of me. There's perhaps one or two girl names I kind of love and the rest are just okay. I also struggle to find girl names which fit in with my boy names. It is mightily annoying. I don't think it's selfish though- it's perfectly natural to prefer things.
I don't really know what to do about it though- I'm in the same situation Perhaps try looking/listening out for new names and really think about them for a while rather than just passing them off? Or look through favourite books/plays/artists/films for names which will have special meaning? Or... family names! That just came to me, d'oh. Almost all the girl names I like are connected to my family/heritage in some way- can you maybe do that for your boys?
July 10th, 2013 04:40 PM #7
Hey-thanks for replying.
celianne-YES! I used to spend hours not playing with PollyPockets/Barbies but making their names and ordering registers. Although I did have two boy dolls called Rick and Harry [I have no idea why I called them that!]
charlieandperry1-Oh that would be an interesting investigation into what different upbringings and personality traits contribute to naming style. I do already look for family eg. If I ever have a boy, the middle name will be John. I think I need to do some more research into boys names as I never really post in the boys forum and don't look at the boys section of baby name books and part of the problem is motivation to leave the comfort zone of the females.
July 10th, 2013 05:01 PM #9Senior Member
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I don't think it's as much to do with a preference for girls. There's a lot more diversity in the acceptable kinds of girls' names, and I think that makes it more fun to choose. It feels like there's an infinity of possibility with girls' names, whereas with boys...it feels much more taboo to go outlandish. From your names even, Ottilie is totally off the radar, out there, and Saxon is the most daring name from your boys' list. Ottilie is about a million times more adventurous than Saxon, but somehow Saxon almost seems like a more unusual real-life choice. We just don't give boys exciting names very often. That said, I think once you find some boys' names you love, you'll be in love forever. My top girls' names are always in flux, but my boys' number ones are completely fixed, love them to death. Just took some time! (It should be said, in spite of my preference for and much greater assurance with my boys' names, I want girls more than boys. I just don't have an easy time finding ones I love!)
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