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June 29th, 2013 09:22 PM #31Senior Member
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Aww, she will come around. It's just as much a shock for her as it is for you. It is quite early to be spreading the news, so that is part of the reason she had the reaction she did.
But, congratulations! It's normal to feel shocked. Most of us did when we found out, even if we were trying to conceive. To become pregnant with your first child is to take on a new identity, and that is very jarring initially. I definitely went through a 2-3 day period of feeling a bit of grief and sadness at the self-centered life I was losing. After that, though, I was able to focus on the joy and excitement.
As much as it probably doesn't feel like it to you, it IS still very, very early. Try not to get too ahead of yourself. Most pregnancy healthcare workers will tell you not even to really consider yourself pregnant until you have your first ultrasound around 8 weeks and it shows a heartbeat. Chances are, you'll be just fine, but early on, anything can happen.
Hope that doesn't damper anything because I really, really do want to congratulate you foremost!Mama to
Desmond Sanders, born 7/2013
and dog son, Lambeau
June 29th, 2013 10:12 PM #33Senior Member
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Thanks for the encouraging words! I am trying not to get ahead of myself. I know anything can happen. I am trying to find a good balance between not fetting too excited because I don't want to be let down if anything were to happen, but also not stressing and worrying over every little possibility.
I talked to a good friend and she was very encouraging, an so excited for us. My husbands parents are so happy. Just kind of feels like a tragic loss that my own mother wasnt happy with the news. I mean, I already have raging hormones as it is!
Iteresting you said it took a few days to grieve the self centered life you will never have again! That is how I feel. Silly and stupid but true.
June 29th, 2013 11:03 PM #35
It's okay, accidental babies are the best surprises! To hopefully help calm your fears a bit: I got pregnant and called my gyno only to learn that my doctor had stopped doing deliveries. They referred me to a random obstetrician and my overall experience with him was very positive. And I was a single 20 year old girl walking in a new office so I definitely started with the same fear as you about being judged, but everyone there was very nice. People who work around babies tend to be, so try not to worry about that.
Also my mom took the news quite horribly. It did take a while for her to get used to the idea, but the important thing is to not let her reservations affect your own mood. Your hormones are going to try to drive you crazy as it is, but just keep thinking happy thoughts. Even if it's a little earlier than planned, you are still completely entitled to feel excited about this little one! And I promise grandma will come around; My mom has been obsessed since the moment he was born. Early but happy congratulations to you and your husband! =]
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June 30th, 2013 01:20 AM #37Senior Member
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Thank you SO much amydomsmom that was so very encouraging! It is nice to know that someone else had the same timid feeling, and that your mother was both thrilled at first! It's nice to hear everything turned out find for everyone in the end
It's been a rough first day! Everything is so new and scary and unreal! Hoping it gets better soon and becomes more real and exciting thank you!!!
June 30th, 2013 01:36 AM #39
I know you said it's a big surprise, but can't have been too much of a surprise as you've posted every month wondering if you're pregnant and trying to detect pregnancy symptoms.
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