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Thread: Naming when you aren't into it?
June 5th, 2013 08:30 PM #16Senior Member
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I'm sure plenty of people understand how I feel. I don't think other people don't "get it". We've all had times when we didn't get what we wanted.
I'm trying to look up some of the suggestions on Pinterest now to see if I can find some things that appeal to me. Some of the plain Gap things suggested are okay. I can always just do plain solid colored onesies since he'll be born in the summer. I'm not a fan of cartoon characters at all, not just a boy thing, but on girls things as well. Just not my cup of tea.Mom to:
due July 2013
June 5th, 2013 09:40 PM #18Senior Member
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I think you just need to surrender to this beautiful journey and wait to meet your baby. You might be completely and utterly surprised, swept off your feet. One day you might look back on all this and laugh.
NOTHING has to have a football on it. Choose simple, natural, earthy decor. Little woodland creatures etc. Remember... you will be cuddling a sweet little newborn, not a grown man. All things soft, sweet and delicate are suitable for all babies of both genders.
I have a feeling you'll surprise yourself. And I think your son will surprise you too.
Some softer boys name suggestions:
June 5th, 2013 10:02 PM #20
Before I address the issue, let me say that I saw your signature in another post and was blown away by the beautiful sib set of Gretchen and Cordelia. Truly gorgeous!
Now, on to the issue at hand. Before I had kids, I never saw myself as someone with a boy. My first child is a little boy, and it has been so much fun! There is a special bond between and mother and son. No, it isn't tea parties and barbies, but in my case, it hasn't been all about sports either. For my son, it has been all about reading, super heroes, card games, building forts, story telling, outside play etc. Probably some of the same activities you do with your daughters. I would encourage you to embrace this new exciting chapter. No the names aren't as frilly and flowery, but there is charm in their masculinity. Try imagining great characters from movies and books. I want you to be excited about finding the perfect little name to match the spectacular names you have for your daughters. Your heart is going to be so full of love and excitement when you see that sweet little face. Good luck and please keep us posted on the great names you choose! Here are some that came to mind
Graham (maybe too close to Gretchen)
June 5th, 2013 10:07 PM #22
I have a son and personally HATE the massive difference in decor, clothing and MESSAGES that the aforementioned send to little boys and little girls. I don't like infantile things in general so would never pick pastels and little wooly lambs, etc, for either sex, but some of the boy stuff was just absurd. I mean cartoonishly, stereotypically macho for tiny sweet pink babies. I remember seeing infants' clothing with horrible things like skulls, poisons, motorcycle gang paraphernalia, messages like "tough guy" or "little hell-raiser" printed onto onesies at big-box stores. The girls' clothing (which is always 2/3 of the shop, despite the fact that half of children are boys!) was much more multi-dimensional. The same was true for decor-- boring navy blue footballs, trains, cars, and the like.
When you branch out and leave the big-box stores, things become much more appealing. I have been buying a lot of things from Janie & Jack and a company called MudPies, which make the sweestest cutest ooh-and-ah little overalls, bowties, suspenders, seersucker shorts and the like. The kinds of clothes where we're stopped on the street and strangers exclaim over how cutely he's dressed. As long as you look for boys' clothes that look like BABY clothes rather than mini-adolescent wear, the spectrum of adorable is quite blinding.
Re: decor: Antoine's bed linens are technically part of Serena & Lily's girls' line, but I just liked them best. [This is it: the first one. http://www.childmode.com/2010/02/26/...new-crib-sets/] I also got some handmade ikat sheets and changing pads which compliment things nicely and aren't too infantile or cartoonish. [http://www.babyauthority.com/brands/...nt-fabric.html]
In short-- I too suspect this fear will pass once you're cuddling your son in your arms. Perhaps too you're projecting broader cultural notions of *adult* male behavior onto a small male baby. I assure you nothing is farther from the truth. Baby boys are sweet, smiley, generous, cuddlesome, dole out sloppy kisses and run to their moms posthaste when they want soothing or reassurance. There is no difference that I can appreciate thus far between a little boy and a little girl. I'm sure things change as they age, but honestly, nobody does sullen, hostile and uncommunicative as well as a 12-yo girl. At least adolescent males keep decent relationships with their mothers.
Oh, my son loves to dance. Once he's two I'm enrolling him in an all-boy ballet class ("creative movement" at first, then proper ballet). I hate sports and would be really disappointed if any child of mine, male or female, made me sit through endless T-ball games or bumbling soccer matches. There really is very little you're imagining you'd like to do with yet another daughter that you can't do with a son.
In the meantime, while you're adjusting-- why not ask your husband to take the reigns on naming? Is he excited about having a son?
Last edited by blade; June 5th, 2013 at 10:09 PM.Blade, MD
XY: Antoine Raphael (3.1.2012)
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June 5th, 2013 10:11 PM #24Senior Member
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My cousin has three boys, all she wanted was a little girl. Every time she announced she was having a boy, I knew she was a little disappointed. But once her boys were born she was definitely "into" it. And all of her boys have really distinct personalities. The oldest is sensitive and caring, the middle is rough-and-tumble and and wild, and the youngest and the strong silent type. They all love superheros and Legos, but they also have dolls and stuffed animals, and are very into their mother's fairy collection. I know we're all starting to sound like broken records, but you don't have to raise a "sports and monster trucks" type of boy.
Just some more suggestions for names that you may like, based on your girls beautiful names (I LOVE Gretchen!)