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Thread: A bit of a sensitive subject
June 2nd, 2013 03:32 PM #16Senior Member
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This is something I have thought about, and I find myself agreeing with the original poster. I think I would feel inclined to give a strong, easily pronounced, popular name. Even though we as name nerds love all kinds of names, including uncommon, unique, and intricate names, I think it's harder for real people to pull off/wear some of the names we like as name nerds. I would not want to put that pressure on a child when they will already have pressures of their own. Also, in a time when we value standing out and standing apart from everyone else, I can't help but think that giving a name to a child with special needs will make him or her stand out more than he or she already would, and maybe not in a positive way to their peers. I think it's important for all children to feel they are a part of a community, and I especially think it's important for children with special needs, so I would want to give him or her a name that is well-recieved at large in the community to promote further acceptance.Current Favorites:Elizabeth Lily nn LizbethKatherine Isabelle nn KateAmelia nn Millie
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June 3rd, 2013 07:12 AM #18
Since I read this post I had been wondering, so tonight I actually asked my Mum if they had known before my brother was born that he has Down Syndrome, would that have swayed their naming choices. She said that the child she was carrying was the same child she chose the name for, so the "that's the name moment" is telling you that's the right name for that baby so that wouldn't change.
I just thought her perspective as a parent of a child with special needs would be interesting to contributeThe 3 Princesses in my life...
June 4th, 2013 12:32 PM #20Senior Member
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I probably wouldn't change what I'd name a special-needs child, other than if I was deciding between a shorter/simpler or a longer/more complicated name (or something like that) the known disability might tip me towards the former for the sake of making things a bit easier for the child. If I liked a longer name and wanted to use it over any other names I'd still go for that name.
June 6th, 2013 02:41 AM #22
This is a fantastic thread. A sensitive subject approached gracefully, with everyone weighing in tactfully, respectfully, and thoughtfully. I love this.
I have three SN cousins (two adopted, one biological). Their names are very close to Jason, Tracy and Chris. Tracy has trouble saying her name, which (since she was adopted) could have been planned for, now that I'm thinking about it. I can't realistically imagine what I would do in this situation. I tend to look for fuller names that are good avenues to nicknames that I love, and I can see potentially just using the nickname itself (i.e. Aia instead of Aizeti or Citlaia) in this case. A pp's point about using a stronger, more solid (and perhaps more familiar or approachable) name rather than an arguably more frivolous option was a good one.