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Thread: Scheduled Induction
May 29th, 2013 08:10 PM #26
Angel, I think you're being smart. A big baby is an excellent reason to induce. And yeah, like we have all said, ultrasounds are notoriously inaccurate at estimating weight (despite some very sophisticated algorithms that have been developed)-- which means your daughter has just as good a chance of being *bigger* than predicted as smaller.
If you can't afford a doula, having anyone you love and trust (like your husband) is just fine. You will have a nurse by your side 24/7 [the doctor is there infrequently until the delivery itself], and that nurse is a trained professional who can provide all kinds of help, reassurance and knowledge. Doulas can be lovely additions but they are pricy, lovely additions. And many of them are thorns in the side, frankly.XY: Antoine Raphael (3.1.2012)
XX: Cassia Viviane Noor (11.30.2013)
May 30th, 2013 12:15 AM #28
LOL why would one hire a doula who is a thorn in their side in the first place? That's why you interview them, meet them, see if your personalities "mesh," and move on to the next one if you don't like the first one (or two, or five!) you meet. They are used to that kind of thing. A doula charges about $500 in the Midwest, which is probably less than where you are located, but yes pricey. It was worth it for me, because my husband is totally sweet, but comes unglued as soon as someone says a Latin medical term. His stress translated to my stress. I hired a doula who has training, has worked with my doctor before & has a good relationship with him and the hospital, and knows how to "translate" Doctor Talk to Stressed Out Dad Language.
I do agree that another family member or loved one can do the job, if they are up to the task. If one's husband is good at thinking of "would you like to try a hot shower" when he's freaked out, then it works. My guy is awesome at emotional support and helping me breathe, but the job description ends there. My mom has come to all my births too, and she has done a good job of helping. I'm just saying, it's nice having someone who has more than EMT training (my mom) dedicated only to you and your birth if you can work it. Best thing that I did for "pain management" because stress is always way more a hindrance to me than actual physical issues (of which I've had a lot).
Hospital staff are usually great as well, but shift changes are an unfortunate reality of the clinical setting, especially with the potential long stay of an induction. Another consideration is whether it's a big enough hospital to have sufficient staff that the nurse won't have to tend more than one patient (with my three born in a town of 65,000, not always the case; for the one born in a city of 2 million, no problem). Personally, I like to know as many people on my "team" as I can before I go into it. Meeting a nurse when I arrive is probably my least favorite aspect of the hospital experience. I wish I could meet the nurses beforehand. (Shoot, I'd even go in and meet anesthesiologists if they would let me!)
I *have* heard of doulas who try to railroad the docs and I think they sometimes end up being more of a pain for the hospital staff. But that's a bad approach in the first place. If one's doc isn't on board with natural childbirth, or one otherwise doesn't trust the doctor's advice, what's the point of employing that doctor? It's just a bad idea to keep a doctor one doesn't like, and then bring in some crazy lady to get in the doc's face and disagree with everything. If everybody on your team isn't on the same page in the first place, it's not going to be pretty. On a related note, also a bad idea to hire a quack doula, or someone who has never worked in your hospital before, or someone who the hospital people hate.
Anyway, I'm just saying, if you're trying to look at all the variables and are uncomfortable with what might come up, it's spectacular taking your very own hand-picked helper. If you can manage it. I don't like new environments, I don't like meeting new people, and I don't like unexpected things. All three are very real aspects of the American hospital childbirth experience, and I liked being surrounded by familiar faces. Some people don't want anybody else there and that's fine too. I'm just sharing what works for me.
June 5th, 2013 12:04 AM #30
I just want to wish you lots of luck for tomorrow! I'm so happy you'll finally get to hold Persephone! <3 Can't wait to hear all about her!Blessed to be a mother of 5.
My dashing fellows: Aidan Mackenzie (12 yrs) and Remy Forrester (resting in heaven)
My dahling daughters: Ava Dulcea (5 yrs), Mia Isobel (2yrs) and Gemma Hermione (just joining us!).
June 5th, 2013 01:41 PM #32Senior Member
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