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  1. #1
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    Educated mothers as SAHM

    These days, getting a college education is becoming more the norm, and even expected, for both males and females. The idea is to go to a good school to get a good career, etc. One would assume that a college diploma would be cause enough for a women to get a good career rather than staying home not making any money, right?

    I know most people have very strong opinions about being either a stay-at-home-mom or a career mom but does it have to be so black and white? I'm in college and my major is something that would lead me to a single career, something that probably wouldn't be too difficult to find a job either. I recently started talking to my boyfriend about my desires to be a SAHM when we have children, and he wasn't sure about the idea. He thought that after all the money I spent on school, I should put my degree to good use. It wasn't about the money to him; he just didn't see the point in all that schooling if I wasn't going to use it. He sees nothing wrong with being a SAHM, since his own mother was one, but he doesn't see how I can have it both ways.

    I explained that college for me was partially just for self-betterment. It was something I wanted. Along with that, if he were ever not able to take care of me, I needed a way to take care of myself. And just because I wanted to be a stay at home mom in the beginning didn't mean I would never have a career. If everything goes as planned and I have kids in my mid-twenties, I could still start a career in my mid-thirties when they are a little older. I would still be young. It's just a lot easier to be in college now before kids than regretting it and going back later.

    Just curious, how does everyone else feel about these things?
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    To be honest, if you'd asked me 5 years ago, I would have said no way to being a SAHM. I paid damn good money for that degree, and I'm going to use it. Not to mention, I just finished paying it off.

    Now that the possibility of having children in the near future is upon me, I think I could leave my job in a heartbeat if we could afford it. I love teaching. I love it. But I would give it up to raise my babies.
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    A SAHM (or SAHDs) probably won't be a SAHM forever. Babies grow into toddlers, who grow into children and enter school. At that point, I imagine many SAHMs would want to start working again at that point. And a degree helps with that. So I guess I feel the same as you do.

    I want a career, but I also want to stay home for the first few months of my child's life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dindlee View Post
    To be honest, if you'd asked me 5 years ago, I would have said no way to being a SAHM. I paid damn good money for that degree, and I'm going to use it. Not to mention, I just finished paying it off.

    Now that the possibility of having children in the near future is upon me, I think I could leave my job in a heartbeat if we could afford it. I love teaching. I love it. But I would give it up to raise my babies.
    Interesting to hear from this point of view. I'm going to school to be a teacher too, and it's something I am very excited about doing in the future, but I also think in a way, it would be a waste for me to pay for day care to spend the day with other people's kids instead of my own. I can make decent money as a substitute or having some sort of part-time teaching job and waitressing at night.

    Like I said, I absolutely see nothing wrong with being a working mother, but I see no reason for me to have to choice between college and raising my kids myself.

    Thanks for your input!
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    Connor, Rhett, Corbin, Grayson

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    I'm getting my masters degree right now and I don't have kids yet. I've definitely thought about being a SAHM even though I've spent so much time and money on my education. I would love to spend the early years at home with my future little ones. However, I don't know if we would be able to do that financially. I live in a very expensive state so it would be difficult to only have one income. I don't believe that people have to necessarily use their degree. Many of my friends only found jobs in areas that had nothing to do with their education.

    I do think that starting a career later would be just as difficult as going back to school later. Depending on your field, there will be technological advancements and new information/knowledge. I think it would be difficult to start a new career in most fields 10 years after finishing school. It really depends what your degree is in though.

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