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May 15th, 2013 10:45 PM #16Senior Member
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May 15th, 2013 10:52 PM #18
I have a Master's and work in a field that is in pretty high demand. I love my job, but I would definitely prefer to work part time after I have children. Honestly, I love what I do so much, (and I truly feel it is my calling,) that I wouldn't feel right about not working at all. But that's just me. Maybe I will feel differently when I finally get to hold my baby in my arms!
Women today, who have the intellectual and practical ability, need to get an education to be able to support themselves. You never know what life will throw at you. The part that sucks, especially if you don't end up using that education for an extended period of time, is that the cost of higher education is ASTRONOMICAL. So I can totally understand how a family just couldn't justify having mom or dad stay home when they could be working to pay off the student loans that they took out to get the education to do the job... that they're not doing. I actually know two families who are struggling with this exact problem right now. It's an ugly catch-22. It's basically where my hubby and I are right now; and I'm just thinking about going part-time.
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May 15th, 2013 10:52 PM #20
I just finished my second degree, and I've always wanted to be a SAHM. My parents definitely felt very strongly that I get an education so I will be able to support myself, but luckily they let me do this on my own time (I took a year and a half off after high school, and they never pressured me in to having a timeline before going to university). My dad is very much of the mentality of, "Be an independent woman, you don't need a man. Go travel, go have fun, go have a career you love." which is nice, and my mom was a SAHM while I was growing up and I really appreciated this, and that my dad's job allowed for her to stay home.
Because my mom stayed at home when I was a kid, I honestly couldn't imagine sending my kids to daycare or to a babysitter. I'd do it if I had to, but it's not really my ideal situation. I'd definitely like to stay home until the youngest child is in school all day. Thing is, with the cost of living comfortably, it doesn't always allow for families to be single-income.
I have two degrees for things I really love. I love one more than the other, though... but I'd love to put either in to practice. Or both, ideally.
It is WAY WAY easier to go to college before having kids, you're right. There were two women in my section this year with young children and I have absolutely no idea how they managed. It's doable to go back to school as a parent, but I think it'd be hard. Plus, degree requirements are changing all the time, so sometimes it's a matter of "Do it now before everything changes."
I truly don't believe that going to post-secondary and then being a SAHM is pointless. I totally agree with you- you're improving yourself, studying something you're interested in, continuously learning, being social, learning/ refining life skills (organization, time management, resourcefulness)... this doesn't seem like a waste of time at all.Lucia
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May 15th, 2013 11:21 PM #22Senior Member
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I didn't have time to read everyone's responses, but I am a SAHM with a degree. I got a B.S. in biology. I always knew that when I had kids, I would be a SAHM while they were young, then pursue a career after they got into school. So getting an education was a no brainer. I needed a degree for work before kids, and I'll need a degree for after kids. It just makes sense to get an education while you're still somewhat free. Plus, I loved my college experience. It was amazing, and if I hadn't gone to college, I never would have met my husband. I have had a couple people that were surprised that I was a SAHM with a degree. Apparently, if a woman is a SAHM, it's because she didn't get an education in some people's eyes. It kinda irritates me. I am happy with my decision though. I've even considered staying home longer and home schooling. We'll just have to see :-)Wife to Jordan.
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May 15th, 2013 11:26 PM #24Senior Member
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I have a college degree from a top 20-university that wasn't cheap for my parents. I taught for a little over 3 years and have been home with my kiddos for the last 11 years. I am a much better mom because of my college degree. Knowing how to interpret text, reason logically, write and speak clearly are important skills even if I am not financially compensated for them. Additionally, my experience teaching has helped me work with my kids' teachers and I am able to supplement my kids education with confidence. Also, if something were to happen to my husband (death, disability, job loss, etc) I'm sure having my college degree would be a life saver. Finally, if I had been unable to have children I would have remained in the work force and of course a college degree would have been essential.
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