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  1. #26
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    Quote Originally Posted by goldielocks View Post
    2. Now I'm a little torn on this one. I had a big over the top crazy baby shower for Bugsy, thrown by my closest friends. Then my parents took a group out for dinner about 4 weeks before he was born. He was their first grandchild in 14 years so I guess he got a lot of attention. However I decided I didn't really need another shower for this baby, we have most of the stuff we need and anything we don't have, we have the capacity to buy ourselves, unlike 2 years ago. But then I felt that there are so many photos and memories of Bugsy's baby shower that this baby would be missing out. So, instead of a big party at a friends house, I took everyone out for lunch, around 20 people or so. I asked that in lieu of presents people donate to The Smith Family, it is a charity in Australia that helps disadvantaged children. It was a lovely way to have a celebration without going over the top. Everyone really enjoyed themselves, it was sophisticated and grown-up, unlike my first shower that was all games and blue and pink! So, I guess it's up to the individual, although I loved the way I did it, both babies get memories, just in a less consumer impacted way for the second.
    What @goldielocks did in lieu of a baby shower for her 2nd baby is absolutely wonderful. I love this idea. It's so sweet and so meaningful. That's the type of "non-shower" I'd love to participate in. It's the celebration of a baby without it being a "baby shower".

    I truly believe the traditional point of a baby shower is to acknowledge the woman's transition into motherhood (or the couple's transition into parenthood). It's something that is only done once.
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    Desmond Sanders, born 7/2013
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    Quote Originally Posted by sdsurfmama View Post
    What @goldielocks did in lieu of a baby shower for her 2nd baby is absolutely wonderful. I love this idea. It's so sweet and so meaningful. That's the type of "non-shower" I'd love to participate in. It's the celebration of a baby without it being a "baby shower".
    Thanks! I really enjoyed it. I can't wait to tell our baby about it! In all honesty it was a much more enjoyable experience than my first baby shower, possibly because I was so much more relaxed. I called it a "grown up" shower, no gimmicks or fuss, just a happy meal with friends at a huge long table. It was great, I recommend it to everyone!
    Mama to Bugsy William and Jem Richmond.

  3. #30
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    I've never been to a baby shower, I didn't have one when pregnant on Amelie and I won't be having one for this baby. They're just not popular around here and while I think they're a sweet concept, I would worry people would think I was fishing for gifts because they're literally unheard of where I live.


    Mama to Amelie Clara (2008) & Daisy Madeline (2013).

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  4. #32
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    I am surprised by the reported rarity of baby registries! I have lived in FL, CA, and now NC and have been to many baby showers in each place. Every baby shower invitation I have received has included registery information. These can be pretty extravagant, in my experience. For instance, no, I am not buying you $40 organic newborn sized baby jeans. That is insane. I do feel like becoming parents can make otherwise reasonable people a little crazy. I like all of our friends, and all of our family, including the innumerable cousins of childbearing age. I like to give gifts. And I give gifts for each new baby, of course. My favorite new baby gift to give is a date- a gift certificate to a nice restaurant for the new parents (including babysitting.) I also make baby quilts for very close friends/family who I am positive will appreciate them. I really do try to take into account peoples personal likes and dislikes, etc. I just don't like essentially being handed someone's shopping list. Or, as someone mentioned above, the expectation that other people will buy you all of your baby gear.

    To me, the most compelling reason for the baby shower to happen pre-baby is thank you notes. Ours pretty much had to happen after our son was born, and I am telling you, it was very challenging to get thank you notes out after a surprise newborn.

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    I've been to one post-baby shower and it was supposed to be pre-baby but he was born at 7 months. Most have been pre-baby. Lets face it Baby-showers are big business in the US (and thus also mostly here) and with so many stores giving the same benefits to baby registry's as they do wedding (if nobody else bought it for you by the shower date we'll give you a 10-20% discount) it's really rather useful for them to be in advance. For nesting mothers it really allow for you to know exactly what you need to get and provided your registry has gifts on them with a variety of price-points relatives can decide to get you the more expensive things and friends can op for something a bit cheaper like the crib sheets you want. (I'm not sure how Australia and England are on electronic gift registries but they aren't big in Germany and it's considerably harder to ask for very specific things without having a friend or relative mind that list. The electronic ones per store really allow people to get you things you specifically want. Which I find very useful I"m always a practical gift giver and love knowing that something I'm getting you is something you'll actually use. I'm going to be a natural fibers mom and will be grateful to be able to put items on a registry that fit that instead of people bringing whatever and me having to worry about hurting their feelings by throwing away the stuff I don't want.

    Also I think one per-child sounds totally fine. If people don't want to give you big gifts it's a great time to just hand out pre-newborn sleeplessness and you can always bring a children's book. It's not like you will necessarily need a new stroller or crib for each child, and even if you do nobody expects those to be the only gifts friends can give. I'm sure gifting a ton of diapers will never be amiss.
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