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Thread: Baby Showers
May 4th, 2013 09:57 PM #21
No kids, but I've been to a few baby showers, so...
1. I've only ever been to pre-baby showers, although I see the appeal of having one post-baby since everyone gets to meet your LO, but at the same time life is so hectic at that point it would probably be more of a hassle. I did know of one post-baby shower (I wasn't invited, it was a friend of a friend) but that was because she had previously had several miscarriages, including losing twins at 30 weeks. So for her it made sense.
2. I don't think having multiple showers is necessarily "tacky" or "greedy", because I know for the most part baby showers like wedding showers are planned by the mom-to-be's family or friends, not her. So it's not like she's demanding people come to the shower and bring gifts for baby #2 or whatever. And really, who cares? I would never be offended at the chance to give a friend a small gift for baby... I do agree after the first baby though, showers should be much smaller, unless they're really far apart in age."whatever our souls are made of,
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May 4th, 2013 10:29 PM #23
I never heard of a baby shower that didn't happen before the baby was born.... Usually you want to do them before so you don't have to stress over having to take a baby to the shower when you're just adjusting to the new little bundle.
3 baby showers? Seems really unnecessary, especially since you should have all the items you need! It's inappropriate for her to be throwing it, but if someone else offered to, then no. I get maybe having a shower to celebrate, but then I wouldn't call it a shower. It's greedy because you are expected to bring a gift to showers. Now if she just wanted to share the news and celebrate her pregnancy, that's different.
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May 4th, 2013 11:03 PM #25
I think it's very British (and Australian) to baulk at the idea of a baby shower. Expecting people to buy gifts in preparation for the baby and then to buy another gift after the baby is born? Too much. My SIL had one (the only one I've ever been to) and I thought it was a bit awkward. However, if it's just a celebration (no gifts, just a get together for friends), then that's fine, and you can have one for each pregnancy. That's pretty much what I'm planning on doing. I want to throw a party, but I don't want people to feel obligated to bring presents. Oh, and I just wanted to add, I've never heard of a mum having a "baby registry". I think it's very tacky for a wedding, let alone a baby! It seems greedy. Buy your own stroller! Lol.
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May 4th, 2013 11:41 PM #27Senior Member
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1. I've only been to a baby shower before the baby was born. I've never heard of it after. I think that's kind of the whole point, to get stuff for the baby so you don't have to go out and get it yourself when you leave the hospital.
2. Being 5 years apart, there probably shouldn't be another shower. The shower is really for the mother, not the baby. It's not like "it's only fair" to give both children a shower. I went to a shower for a woman who also had a 12-year-old from a previous relationship, but that's different. Her baby stuff was long gone. But 5 years is a lot smaller of an age difference. I think a second shower is unnecessary.Anastasia, Tessa, Marina, Stella
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May 5th, 2013 02:22 AM #29Senior Member
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I truly believe the traditional point of a baby shower is to acknowledge the woman's transition into motherhood (or the couple's transition into parenthood). It's something that is only done once.Mama to
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