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Thread: Private vs Public Schooling
April 27th, 2013 09:57 AM #6
My family is (lower-) working class, I went to public primary and secondary schools and had a good experience of both, and mixed with a lot of good people. I will probably never be able to afford private or boarding education for my children but even if I did I would still choose public. I've been brought up with the belief that kids in private schools are up their own and don't understand how the real world works, I wouldn't want that for my child. I want them to mix with both genders, all social classes, and children from as many backgrounds as possible - because that's what life is like. Even my best friend - who is dating someone who went to a private all-boys school - thinks along the same lines of me and says that her partner doesn't know the first thing about girls or real life half of the time.Current Loves: Tobias Henry and Sebastian Keith
April 27th, 2013 10:05 AM #8Senior Member
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My daughter goes to a mixed public catholic school. It was the best choice for us, we didn't like the idea of private school and the school we chose was small, close knit and really impressed us when we went to visit.
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April 27th, 2013 10:29 AM #10Senior Member
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We've basically got two categories; state schools and private schools (independent/public schools).
State schools consists of:
Community schools (run by local authority)
Foundation/Trust schools (foundation schools are run by government but supported by a charity, trust schools are co-run by gov and charity/bussiness)
Faith schools (run by governement, supported by church/other religious thing)
Grammar schools (secondary only, very academic focused)
Free schools (run by community/parents/teachers etc, not controlled by gov.)
Specialist schools (run by gov, schools that specializes in certain fields (art, sports, physics etc))
Private/Independent/Public schools (run by a board, charges a fee for education)
My education experience:
I started school at 6 (in Norway), I went to the Rudolf Steiner/Waldorf school. When we moved to London a few years later I continued in the same school system. When I was 12/13 my parents sent me to an all-girl boarding school in Buckinghamshire. I loved boarding school, it was so much fun and very educational in so many ways. Not only because of all the fantastic classes and clubs (latin, fencing, ballet, languages, history, art and I could go on and on...) but it was a very good way to learn about yourself, become independent and make very good friends (we were basically each others family). (My sister went to the first co-ed boarding school in England and she loved it. We were intentionally sent to different schools our parents thought would suit our personalities.) I loved going to an all-girl school, I think that's really good for teenagers to be a bit apart and it definitely helps on the concentration.
My boyfriend went to an all-boy boarding school and he thought that was wonderful as well. We plan on sending our child to the same boarding school I went to, it is the best girl boarding school in England, and I had such amazing experiences there (if we ever have a boy my boyfriend wants him to go to Eton, for the same reasons). But only if she wants to. If not, there are plenty of good schools in London (if we continue to live here), but I must admit I've only looked at private schools up to now. As for nursery and primary school I think we'll send her to a Montessori or a Rudolf Steiner school, they're sweet and fun. If we move to the countryside I've looked at some amazing nature-nurseries and schools, they look like a lot of fun.
I have no experience with state schools personally, but I have friends who went to state school, and I've got friends who send their children to state schools, and they're all happy and well educated. The most important thing is to choose a school you're comfortable with.
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April 27th, 2013 10:47 AM #12
I wouldn't send future children to single sex and/or public school even if I was a billionaire. Why spend tens of thousands of pounds on an education when you can get the same thing for free at the local comprehensive?! Seems one of the only positives of public/independent/prep schools is that they statistically get better results. Doesn't mean kids in 'normal' schools can't achieve the same.
In my personal experience, kids at the schools I went to roughly fell into 2 groups: those that wanted to learn and ended up with great results, and those that couldn't care less about education and were intent on living off the benefit system (chavs). Just happens that most local secondary schools seem to be made up of the second group and most public schools are made up of the first. For a rough secondary school with a bad rep, there were loads of intelligent kids in my school year; getting A*s across the board and going on to prestigious unis. The vast numbers of chavvy kids just pull the average results down.
Anyhow, future kiddies will most likely be going to a village primary school then the co-ed, non-boarding secondary school in the nearest town. Or, if they decide they want to sit the 11+ and go to grammar school, so be it. I don't really get boarding schools- what's the point in having kids if you're going to barely going to see them from the ages of 4-18? (Hogwarts is the only exception ) There's bullying in EVERY school, so I wouldn't worry about that, and single sex schools... again, why? I'd rather my future kiddily winks got the chance to mix with children from all walks of life rather than just the children of the same sex and socio-economic background. In life, you're not going to come into contact with only one type of person.
Wow, I'm rambling. Basically- I vote against public & independent schools (private schools in the US I believe). You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink
April 27th, 2013 10:49 AM #14
I'm in the UK here, so it's obviously a bit different.
My mum wanted send me to a private school, but my dad is very very strongly against any form of paid education. He lived abroad for a lot of his childhood but was sent to some very posh boarding school back in the UK and really hated it, and on top of that now works for a charity providing free education to children in East Africa.
They deliberately sent me to a very small primary school in a not-so-nice part of town. It was such a lovely school and I genuinely really loved it.
I'm currently now at a state/public high school that is very highly ranked in my area, and I really like it. There is a huge mix in terms of social/economic backgrounds, since the primary schools in both the not-so-nice areas and the very upper middle-class areas feed into it.
My little sister has a mild learning disability and my parents decided to send her to a Steiner Waldorf school, which are totally free but hard to get into. The philosophy is pretty complex, but in brief they focus a lot creativity and have a more holistic approach, which was really great for my sister. But honestly the philosophy, whilst very successful, is based on a very weird background of beliefs, borderline-cult, and just got weirder and weirder as she got older.
My parents took her out and she went to a mainstream primary school after 3 years of her Waldorf school.
But I digress.sixteen, dreaming of future babies...
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