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Thread: Family Ties
April 19th, 2013 04:22 AM #1
Okay, so question:
Is it better to name a child after a treasured family member is the name is workable and "okay"
or is it better to go with a name you really love.
For instance, I LOVE the first names in my signature, so those won't change, but 'Dwyn' and "Kevin" are both family names that I think work, but I don't LOVE the way I would love Cytheria Violet or Sequoia Jonathan.
Now my first instinct is to say just go with what I love, but then I imagine my son smiling as he plays with his grandpa that he shares a middle name with, and the affection and bond that it might create, and I question what the right way to go is.
Anyone else have a similar conundrum? What did you do?Baby boy due October 2014! Current tentative name:
April 19th, 2013 04:42 AM #3
Interesting question. I've wondered the same thing myself, but decided it's more important to choose a name you love. Grandpa will love his grandson just as much no matter what his name is.TTC #1
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April 19th, 2013 05:15 AM #5Senior Member
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Is there not a middle ground?
My DD's mn is both a name that I love and a tribute to her paternal grandfather Gwynfor .
I think there is usually a way of paying tribute through either meaning or sound in a mn . For me personally, mn's ( and fns really) should be both, ones you love and have meaning for whatever reason , if they are a tribute then they will resonate anyway. (if that makes any sense :-?)
e.g for your example..
Dwyn means 'wave' so could bub be Cytheria /Waverly/ Genevieve/Anya/Guinevere , for example which all mean wave, or white wave
Last edited by jodest; April 19th, 2013 at 05:25 AM. Reason: spelt Guinevere wrong oopsProud mama to Lillian Gwynaeth (Lily Gwyn/ Lilou) (12/2012)
April 19th, 2013 09:12 AM #7Senior Member
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I tend to use family names in the middle to honour people, even if they don't sound perfect together. I think the familial connection is much more important to me. My husband wanted to use his name as our son's middle, and even though it doesn't flow well (Ronan Ian) it means far more to have his name included. Also, my third baby has my mom's name as her middle. I didn't care about how it sounded and the honouring my mom was so important to me. My daughter's name is Mira Susan.
So, names I love go in the first spot, and names that have personal, familial meaning go in the middle. I have my father's middle name as my middle name. I got teased about it at times (it's not a pretty name) but I didn't mind because in my little child-brain I was bursting with pride with sharing this name with my father.
April 19th, 2013 12:05 PM #9
Personally I think the family names are more impotant in the middle than just useing a name you love (not first though, for the first name go with one you love) but I love the idea of using a name that means the same thing as the name of the one you are honoring if you love that name more than the person's actual name. For example my favorite name is Elizabeth and my sister's name is Isabella which is a form of Elizabeth so I would use Elizabeth to honor her. You can do the same thing with similar sounding names that don't mean the same, my mom's middle name is Dell and I've considered useing Adelle as a middle name to honor her even though it doesn't mean the same thing. hope my ramblings made since!
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