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Thread: Adoption questions?
April 17th, 2013 06:47 PM #26
I was adopted when I was 3. I have distinctive memories.
My mom wanted to change my name after her grandmothers. My dad said No since I was 3 and already had adjustments to make. They decided to add my biological surname as a 2nd middle name.
Ive always felt detached to my given first name. I knew my mom.didnt love it and I didnt fit with the rest of the family.
I wouldve rather they changed it and went with a name my mom loved. It wouldve helped me deal with the adoption better.
I have a Huge.heart for adoption. Absolutely I will change their name so they know where they belong. But i will keep their given names as middles so they know where they came from <3Mom to Tess, Kaia, Jasper and dogs Brody, Max and Felix
*Penelope Sadie Kite* Piper Olive Cordelia* Phoebe Clementine Hope* Hattie Vivian Jewel* Willa Florence Eve*
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April 18th, 2013 01:54 AM #28
April 19th, 2013 02:34 AM #30Junior Member
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I don't think changing a child's name will necessarily rob them of their heritage. It's up to the parents to keep their adopted child connected to their heritage. Heritage is more than just a name. I have a Dutch last name but my family is more Cherokee than Dutch. For me it would largely depend on the child's age and what name they were given. A child might be born to a different culture or country but they'd be growing up in the United States/Britain/Wherever else, and they will absorb and become part of that culture too. If a name is difficult to spell or pronounce in English or if it was similar to a bad word in English I'd change it.
In High School I was friends with a Vietnamese girl. Her real name was Nhu but she was so frustrated with it being mispronounced that she adopted 'Elena' as a nickname. She's not ashamed of her culture, she's just sick of having to tell people how to spell and pronounce her birth name.
April 19th, 2013 03:20 AM #32
I don't see any problem with changing a child's name. It's not mean, selfish, nor does it take away from their heritage. In many cases where the child's name is changed, it makes them feel like they belong in their new family. If I were to adopt, depending on their age, I'd most likely change their name, and make their birth name as their middle name. If they were old enough to make the decision, I'd ask them. The only time I disagree with a name change is if the child was old enough to say no, that they didn't want to change their name, and the parents changed it anyways (some exceptions would apply, like a completely unpronounceable name for example).Ian Alexander • Cameron Blaise • Damien Cole • Axel Sean • Callum Bryce • Lennox Beau
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April 19th, 2013 05:35 AM #34Senior Member
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