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  1. #111
    Quote Originally Posted by missusaytch View Post
    Yeah all of this. I mean I'm new here, so I don't know how it was before but there is a lot of bossy PC crap. I'm not all that familiar with forums in general so it's surprising.
    Let me give you some advice (seriously, not trying to be nasty) - public forums are exactly that - public. People will constantly bring things to the table that aren't necessarily what you deem relevant. Nameberry is VERY far from the worst name forum on the net, at least people here have a sense of honesty and will tell you how they feel without just kissing butt. I have belonged to one name forum or another for the past decade, the dynamics and "rules" as to what is acceptable to post and the type of issues surrounding names has changed A LOT. The overall style and feel of the name community (even outside of nameberry) has changed. Not always for the better, but in the past few years I have noticed that it's more acceptable to bring up issues that people don't want to think about. Things like homophobia, gender associations, and yes, even politics and nasty histories of certain names. They are things that were always there (maybe not certain politics) but no one wanted to or felt comfortable to discuss. Honestly? Nameberry is one of the most civil forums I have belonged to. The name-calling and such is always to a minimum and most people recognize how to talk about a sensitive issue without being overly (or intentionally) offensive. I LIKE that we can bring up things on here that other people want to bury their head in the sand about. Names go beyond just what you choose to call your baby and I like that we can discuss those aspects on here.

  2. #113
    Join Date
    May 2012
    I was going to respond to a whole bunch of posts but decided that would make mine WAY too long.

    I am one of those people who love the boards but don't ever visit the name descriptions on NB except if prompted to by a particular comment. This is mostly because I wasn't getting the depth of information I was looking for and I found some of the opinions disrespectful. However, I fully recognized that they were personal opinions, and part of me enjoyed knowing they were there. A section that says "Linda feels this name is.... Pam thinks...." could be a great way to incorporate those opinions and really give fans some insight into the different preference of feelings of each. This would be particularly cool if they didn't fully agree. Maybe Linda finds Ashley on a boy very handsome and Pam think's it's gone too much to the girls to be used. But how cool would it be to be able to look that up. FYI: and some other sites have names split into pink, blue and green (unisex) which might be a cool option with the increasing number of gender-neutral names being discussed.

    I think it's important for NB fans to be able to point out entries that need updating. As Linda pointed out multiple times there are 50,000 names listed on this website. It's a bit hard to keep track of 50,000 of anything. If they were constantly reviewing entries they'd never get around to adding new ones.
    maybe Endora, Dexter, Gideon & Lorelei
    Newlywed (Not TTC...yet)

  3. #115
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    New Jersey
    Phew. I'm mostly checking in to keep up with the discussion here. Zippy, I very much appreciate your post. The heart of our work, what made is so revolutionary when it was first published in 1988 and what makes our books and Nameberry different from anything that exists now or is likely to exist in the future because of the changing rights landscape, is the qualitative analysis based on decades of research and experience. Just in case anyone's confused on this point, we abhor homophobia and misogyny and racism. We've updated entries that "rub people the wrong way" and will continue to update constantly.

    But our opinions will remain and what's more, the voice and attitude of this site are what attract this vibrant community of educated and passionate name lovers with well-informed and sophisticated opinions of their own. We not only invite but LOVE hearing your opinions and ideas on names and expect the same high regard in return.

    Lexiem, really fun idea to point up the times when Linda and I disagree, though I'm afraid it would be a very short section....could be a great idea for a blog. One of the many things that's supported our long and happy partnership is that we are in agreement on most names (but not Henrietta. I'll save that for the blog).

    One of the changes we have on board for Nameberry in the near future is a page inviting your commentary on every name which will widen the opportunity for individual commentary. Our wish is that this will open the way to a wider range of opinions beyond our own on many names, which will help parents make better-informed decisions on names for their babies.
    Pam Satran

  4. #117
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Slytherin Common Room
    Quote Originally Posted by zippy View Post
    I am just jaw-droppingly appalled by this entire thread. I remember when Beyond Jennifer and Jason came out, what was so refreshing was how Pam and Linda really told readers about the significance of names; their style, their image, their social mobility. It was the most amazing thing I'd ever read. If forum participants just want to know the meaning and origin of a name, there are a bazillion other sites out there.

    Further more, I can't believe some posters' audacity in dictating to Pam and Linda what they need to change in their content. Stanley is unreasonable and ridiculous for a girl? Tell it to Barack Obama-- that's his mother's name. Don't get me wrong-- you are entitled to your opinions (and you seem to think I'm entitled to mine as long as they jibe with yours), but Nameberry is Pam and Linda's brand. It's their opinion I'm interested in. You think you're more of an expert? Go build your brand. Don't impose your ideas on theirs.

    I've been on this forum off-and-on since the way-back days when Lola and Susan were the resident experts. I came back a few months ago and absolutely cannot believe how contentious and self-righteous many of the posters are. This used to be a fun place where folks played around with names, but now it's gotten weird and politically-charged and, quite frankly, full of bossy prigs. Where is the joy in this community? Cause I ain't seein' it.
    It's called feedback. Something that any reputable brand appreciates.

    There's nothing wrong in pointing out things that rub users the wrong way, with the intentions and hopes of it being remedied.

    Did we pose an ultimatum? No. We're not forcing anything. We simply posted our issues, and left it up to Pam and Linda to choose what to do.

    Also, just because Barack Obama's mother's name is Stanley doesn't mean we have to like it, or think it's suitable on a female.

    If you don't see the joy, that's your own issue. I'm plenty happy on this forum, thank you very much.
    Laurel - 2O - Aries - Slytherin - University of Toronto

    Newest thoughts for little ones: Angelo - Caspian - Eden | Isabela - Brisa - Gisele

  5. #119
    Join Date
    Nov 2011
    Slytherin Common Room
    Quote Originally Posted by pam View Post
    Just in case anyone's confused on this point, we abhor homophobia and misogyny and racism.
    I'm a touch puzzled on this point, if this is true, then why were homophobic words/slurs used at all, ever, in the entries for names?

    I wouldn't put something like "Ming-Lee; your friendly neighbourhood nail tech." (which is pretty much along the same lines as the old entry for Antoine) in a name database and then say I can't stand racism.

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