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Thread: Gender Stereotyping
May 9th, 2013 11:05 AM #101Senior Member
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Okay, so I'm totally reviving an old thread, here, but a friend posted this online today. It reminded me of this thread and I had to share
http://farm8.staticflickr.com/7460/8...4fce671883.jpgTara, proud mama to a Honey Badger
... and a Badger in Training
May 9th, 2013 11:28 AM #103
She still likes sports, but she plays basketball in tutus and generally refuses to wear pants, choosing instead skirts or dresses. My aunt lets her dress her self in the morning and encourages her every step of the way even though my aunt, herself, was always a tomboy and doesn't understand it at all. She lets her daughter be whom she wants to be.
We need to promote this in all children. As a pp said, let the child lead.
May 9th, 2013 11:35 AM #105
That is hilarious TK! Thanks for sharing.Anxiously awaiting the arrival of Luther's little brother November 2015!
Currently loving: Magnus, Tiberius, Gregor, Corvus and Ulric.
May 9th, 2013 11:43 AM #107Senior Member
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Tara, that is so cool! Made me laughMy darling Marian Illyria Aphrodite, March 2013 & Little Bunny (a girl!) due 9th of February 2014
May 9th, 2013 01:13 PM #109Senior Member
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TK, I love that helpful chart!
Okay, I am not a particularly radical person, not setting out to name my son Elizabeth or my daughter Micheal. I did not put hair bows in my sons hair, even though I think hair bows are adorable. His clothes are 99% hand me downs from a cousin, so they tend to feature dinosaurs and trucks. I do think that he will want dance lessons though, and we will be happy to oblige him in this. He has a huge repertoire of dance moves for a one and a half year old.
I agree that gender is a social construct, but many things are social constructs, and this doesn't render them invalid. It seems to me that all societies have done gender in some way or another, and that there are problems with all of these.
But some of these rules that we are running into are ridiculous. For instance, I always let my son pick out his own sippie cups and toothbrushes, stuff like that, at the store. Generally there will be a choice between pink, blue, and green. He nearly always goes for pink. Sometimes orange, if that is an option. To me, this says that he prefers warm colors right now. But we will be out and he will have a pink sippie cup and people will honestly remark on this. They will say things like, "oh, that's not your sippie cup! Who's sippie cup is this?" Or laugh and say that he must have a big sister. Seriously. It is a sippie cup. The pink one doesn't function any differently than the blue one.
I mean, did you know that they now make gender specific Dreft? It is laundry detergent, for goodness sakes. I honestly think that a lot of this is invented/enforced by the huge greedy capitalist marketing machine. If everything is gendered, then they can hope to sell parents everything at least twice.
We have neighbors w. two year old boy/girl twins. The little boy sometimes wants to wear his sister's dresses, so his parents let him. This horrifies some of our other neighbors. They seem to think it is pretty close to child abuse. They aren't making the kid wear dresses, he notices that his sister gets to choose between pants and skirts and he wants to choose, too. He is two! It is the kind if thing to me that only becomes a big deal if you forbid it and overreact out of it. And please note, by "big deal" I don't mean a big deal to me. If my son wants to grow up and wear dresses, he is welcome to do that.