A Word on Privacy

[r_j]

I completely understand alzora, especially in your second post. I'm sure I have posted details about my life in the 1000+ posts here, and I'm sure someone could piece things together (if they cared that much) but I prefer to be a little more private on here. Carl Sagan is the only thing on my profile if I remember correctly, haha. I have also wanted to ask for middle name advice, but it would mean explaining that "[name] is my mom's maiden name, so excuse the flow" and I'm just not comfortable doing that.

With social media being so popular, and everything about me, me, me and what I think, and what I am doing, it's nice to have this site and its exchange of ideas and stories and excitements under the (relative) cloak of anonymity.

[shealahtoba]

This is a good point, @alzora. I will have to Google some of the names I posted here on Nameberry and see if they show up in the results. Hopefully not.

-Shealah

[tk.]

I like the idea of including some extra punctuation in your more unique name combinations (i.e. N@rnia S.apphire). Unfortunately, not all posters take the hint, and will then repeat the name in their comments, without the changes. In general, I'm not too worried about super-sleuth friends and family because I guess the worst that could happen is them seeing me mention one of their names as something I'm not a fan of :/ However, I could see some of the stuff discussed in Momberries being uncomfortable. Any other online forums where I discuss those type of topics (particularly TTC-esque things), there is pretty much no way that someone could easily find me unless they were to actually get on my computer. I think it would be nice if there was a way to turn off the ability for non-members to view the rest of a member's threads. Maybe there is and I just don't know it

[wrenmaple]

Ive definately been concerned with this as well. Ive also talked extensively about my childrens names. Ive googled their names, and the only thing that has shown up is nameberry and other name sites that admired their names. i dont think someone will show up at my door for my children because they found their name on nameberry. I would be more concerned if their personal information or ss# is on it. Most definately Im more concerned about talking about other kids names on nameberry.

[jazz1509]

I understand to a degree. My daughters don't have uncommon names so that makes me less worried but we do have a very unusual surname. I tried searching their full names and nothing related to them came up at all even though I have posted their full names (only once) here on Nameberry.
If any one came across my Nameberry account they would know it was me based on the names I have in my signature but I don't think I would care. I would care more about someone else finding a post I made about their children's names! haha.

[kibby]

If googling my combos has taught me anything, only one of them leads me right back to nameberry, and the rest just aren't as unique as I had thought. I am not sure how I feel about this... I don't care that one combo leads back here, because the odds of someone searching it are so small as we are years away from even breathing it aloud! I might actually be more bothered that there are seemingly quite a few women with the names I love for girls, full combos and all.... This all being said, I never post last names, and I am hesitant to post my Fiances name, or names of members of my family/friends purely because I would rather people not make the connection.

[pippi777]

I googled many combos I had posted on a thread here, as well. Only 2 linked back to here. And both were uncommon first names, with common middle names. And I know that the people with those names wouldn't have minded my posting them. There are 2 groups I haven't posted, but for specific reasons per group. As far as discussing names for future children, if you love a name so much (and it's a unique name) that you want your child to be the only one with that name, it's best to do as you and others have done. Don't mention the fn or mn, or put symbols in the place of a letter in each name. But if the names your thinking of are common, there are so many other people with those names that they don't even register in the google search. But I don't think any of the ones I have posted would ever care enough to even look, to be honest. Even if they did, I wouldn't mind a connection being made. Most people I know know that I love names and wouldn't be surprised to find me on a naming site! It totally depends on where your privacy comfort lies in the grand scheme of things, I think.

[uniquenamelover]

I'm completely googable. My first name alone is very uncommon and my last name is a little unusual.My middle name is virtually unheard of. I do think about this, but I would rather stick out with my very rare name than blend in with a sea of Sarahs and Katies.