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January 31st, 2013 04:13 AM #1Junior Member
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Having serious COLD FEET about our name
So I have just a little over 4 weeks to go and I am having serious cold feet about our baby girl's name. We chose the name Evelyn for our 4th baby (2nd girl) and I loved the name, I seriously did. It was my first suggestion and my husband originally vetoed it, so I feel I should be happy I won in the end. But now I just don't know. I don't know if it's because I am mourning the names I love that I'll never get to use, I have a list of about 12 that I feel really sad that I'll never get to use. Or maybe it's because my husband agreed to the name under such bizarre circumstances, that it doesn't feel right to use it. I have never felt like this with any of my other kids names, I'm not quite sure how to deal with it. Does anyone have any tips on how to get through this.
By the way my husband is impossible to get to talk to about names, he despises the naming task whole heartedly. He keeps telling me we have ages... 4 weeks doesn't feel like a lot of time. So even if we do name her Evelyn, she still has no middle name because I can't get him to discuss it.
We threw around the idea of Evelyn Iris for a little while after his grandmother who died just before Christmas. But I'm not in love with how it flows and having cold feet about that too. I feel I want to find a name I love more... but that feels a little selfish at the same time. So I don't know what to do with her middle name either. HELP! A few combo's I have thought of are.... not really sure on any of them though.
January 31st, 2013 04:24 AM #3Senior Member
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What are the other names in the sibset?
January 31st, 2013 08:59 AM #5Junior Member
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My other kids names are Riley (b) Jackson and Piper. Riley was mutually agreed on by both of us although not knowing anything about names when he was born I was sad when I realised how popular it was and probably would have chosen different if I could. Jackson is all my husband, he refused to agree on any name I liked and Jackson was the choice of his I hated the least. Piper was mostly me, it was my favourite after DH vetoed all my previous favourites, DH agreed to it but never really loved it. All of their names even though I felt I like we were settling, I never had the cold feet and doubt I have this time. My list currently looks like this:
My husbands list contains
We do not agree on names and mostly he just refuses to talk about it. I do love Evelyn but I guess I just keep hoping a name will jump out at me that feels so right and I adore so much. Or maybe I am just searching for that perfect combo to go with Evelyn.
January 31st, 2013 02:56 PM #7
The nameberry community will absolutely favor your names over your husband's, but of course it's not our baby! In real life babies are named by two people, with many conflicting influences.
I think Iris is wonderful, both because it honors your grandmother-in-law (surely your husband would be on board with that, unless they weren't close?). It also satisfies your craving for a unique, more deeply rooted name. So, I think Iris should be in the combination, somehow.
Your other children's names are modern. Riley, Jackson and Piper are all quite popular [which is perfectly fine; popular names are usually popular for a reason]. Since you have three children already, picking something very different for the fourth would really stand out. I like to say, two similarities is a coincidence, but three is a pattern. From your list, I would eliminate the vintage-y choices: Stella, Imogen, Juno, Amelie, Charlotte and Annabel. Evelyn too.
A name that ends on a consonant would sound best with Iris:
Scarlett Iris [though this is problematic as scarlet is a color and iris is a thing, so it sounds like a description rather than a name]
Seren Iris [again, 'star flower' or 'star rainbow' or 'star part of the eye' is a little problematic]
From his list, nearly all pair with Iris quite nicely.
Iris Alexa [not Alexis, they rhyme]XY: Antoine Raphael (3.1.2012)
XX: Cassia Viviane Noor (11.30.2013)
February 2nd, 2013 04:46 PM #9
Honestly, I don't think Evelyn goes with her siblings. I think your style is quite masculine so throwing a feminine, girly name into the sibset is a bit odd one out. I think you should give a masculine/unisex fn and a feminine mn.
Harlow Elizabeth (I really like the flow of this name)
Rowan Evelyn (If you really love Evelyn use as a mn)