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February 1st, 2013 11:16 PM #1Junior Member
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Doing The Opposite of What Your Parents Did
So, being the name-obssessed person tham I am, I've recently become fascinated with a trend I've seen in my own family that goes three generations back. It has led to me beleive this theory that people will have a completely different naming-style than their parents. It's sort of a grass-is-greener-on-the-other-side type thing and how I believe no one will ever be complety satisified (right off the bat, anyway) with their given name.
Here it is:
My grandmother's name is Carolyn Jeanne, but has gone by Jeanne ever sinc3 she was a child. It's a classic older sibling story--her two-year-old sister couldn't pronounce Carolyn and since there's no shortened version of Carolyn they began calling her Jeanne. She was Jeanne at home and Carolyn at school and everywhere else. She talks about how annoying/confusing this was for her. She still goes by Jeanne but is always addressed as Carolyn by other people. (i.e. when she was staying in the hospital she was "Patient Carolyn"). I can see why this isn't ideal.
Then when it came time to my mother and aunt, she didn't give them middle names and their first names had a common nickname in case there were any problems w/ the first name. However, this caused its own problems. First of all, my mom's name is Suzanne and in the course of my childhood have heard how many times it is confused with Susan. Hoenstly, half the people my mom knows call her Susan and it's so tiring to repeatedly correct them she just goes with it. Since she has no middle name there are no family connections or much rhythm to her name. She has also never liked the nicknames that go along with it. Family members spell her name Suzy/Suzi/Susie and she has to go exclusively by Suzanne in the work place beacause "Suzy" will just lead to "Susan".
So when naming me and my brother she wanted names that couldn't be shortened. Our midle names have family links, something that she never had. (But my middle name is Suzanne so I have to deal with all that crap too--"What's your middle name? Susan? No, Suzanne? How do you spell that?) My name is Rachel, which has no nicknames so that's just who I am--Rachel. I have no other options. I don't really like Rachel and that's kind of discouraging that I can't go buy anything else. In conclusion, when the fourth generation comes along, I want my kids to have optoions. I want to give them names that can be shortened or usable mns.
See a pattern?
So what do you guys think? Has anyone else noticed this? Please let me know if you think this is a valid theory!
February 2nd, 2013 01:30 AM #3Senior Member
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I've noticed it with myself and my best friend.
She has one of the Great Classic Names of The Western World (think Catherine, Elizabeth, and...)
I have always loved her name. She found it not very interesting and knew many other women with it.
She has a daughter with a reasonably uncommon name she then chose to spell an odd way to be "that little bit more different."
I have an ethnic, never-in-the-Top-1000 name, and my mom then tried to make it easier for English speakers by re-spelling it.
My BFF always liked it as I was the only one she knew with it. I found it usually got the pronunciation wrecked and because of the attempted phoneticization, even people of my own background can't spell it.
I am quite fond of names like Jane, Emily, Claire, Lily, etc. that wouldn't shock anyone in an English speaking country, and even when I go unusual, I need the "right" spelling. I'm a devil for spelling.
February 2nd, 2013 05:40 AM #5
My family comes from a long line of firsts and middles being family names, and I don't think there's anyone on my mom's side not named after family. On my dad's side, there's no trace of family names being reused. So I'm going to do both if I can, one family name and one non-family name.