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Thread: Name depression
January 15th, 2013 11:07 PM #6
LOL... really I did.
I discuss possible names for a future child with my DH and 3 kids.
DH "whatever you like" (BLESS HIM!!!!)
DS 20 likes Indo/ boho names- Delilah, Terzia, Rhys, Braden
DD 19 likes traditonal/ quirky -Elena, Lucy, Leo, Alexander
DD 15 likes names of her peers- Courtney, Alicia, Tyler, Harry
Just when I think I have found 'the one' someone drags it down with an eye roll or two.
In the end I drive myself crazy trying to pick something everyone approves of.
When I look back at choosing my other kids name I didn't tell anyone- they adjusted.
Hard as it is, just go with what you like.
A thought on Tyne- could you use a more 'popular' type name as a longer version then shorten it to the nn Tyne and thus win everyone over? Eg the name Tyson nn Tyne or maybe the initials Ty(FN) with an N name eg Tyler Nathaniel (Ty..N).
EmiliaCurrent favourite boy names: Cormac Flynn Nathaniel (Nate) Oliver Alexander Henry Liam Hugo Isaac Leo Micah Bennett Nikolai Reid Edward nn Ned Gus Tobias Austin
Current favourite girl names: Phoebe Kiara Skye Matilda Charlotte Eliza Violet Annabelle Ruby Cleo Rose Kate Felicity Grace Seraphine Jade Eloise Belle
January 16th, 2013 02:45 AM #8
It's one thing to enjoy approval, but you have to stress to them that this issue is important to you, and they're actually causing you stress and making you deeply unhappy. It's an unacceptable situation.Blessed to be a mother of 5.
My dashing fellows: Aidan Mackenzie (12 yrs) and Remy Forrester (resting in heaven)
My dahling daughters: Ava Dulcea (5 yrs), Mia Isobel (2yrs) and Gemma Hermione (just joining us!).
January 16th, 2013 09:13 AM #10Senior Member
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Hayley, sweetie, I'm so sorry. I know it's been tough on you, it is hard when people, especially our parents, say these horrible things about the names we love. I think the worst thing is how she compared your names to your sisters, that's really unfair and quite mean (I'm sorry to say this about your mum, I'm sure she's lovely but I get upset on your behalf here!), and the comment on being ashamed to call out Tyne in public. I'm all for people giving their opinions but that's not the way to do it. I agree with the others that you should stop sharing your choices, but I get that it's difficult. It's normal (at least for people in happy families) to ask for advice in these matters. But if she is going to keep on beating them with a stick, you need to stop.
I'm super close with my family, so even though I didn't intend to I told them about my list and it was literally beaten to death with the most gruesome comments and evil laughter you can imagine. My boyfriend's mother actually made a similar remark about Belphoebe, how no one would ever take a person with that name seriously. So now I won't be telling them any names until she/he is named.
Anyways, lots of hugs to you!My darling Marian Illyria Aphrodite, March 2013 & Little Bunny (a girl!) due 9th of February 2014
January 16th, 2013 12:13 PM #12
Ok, so I misunderstood and thought you were using Tyne as a girl's name, like Tyne Daly. Is it possible that her problem with the name isn't the name itself, but the idea of using a feminine name on a boy? Not trying to take your mom's side, but maybe knowing why she has such strong opposition will help, even if neither of you changes your mind.
January 16th, 2013 01:27 PM #14Senior Member
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I agree with everyone above: your child, your choice. Full stop.
Most people feel perfectly entitled to make negative comments about names when they are "hypothetical", but I've found it's much harder for them to say hurtful things when an actual baby, who they love and cherish, is wearing it. My own sister ruthlessly criticized our choice for my first daughter's name (and also our front-runner for our second), but once the baby arrived she kept her mouth shut.
FWIW, I really like Tyne - it reminds me of Tynan, a surname I heard a lot when I lived in Ireland Go with your heart and tell the naysayers to f* off.