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Thread: Would you use an ex's name?
January 11th, 2013 05:51 PM #1Senior Member
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Would you use an ex's name?
Exactly as the title says.... would you use an ex's name for your child? If you one day realized the most perfect, amazing name, but then remembered that you once dated a person with the name? Would it depend on if things ended on good or bad terms with the person, or would you be strict about not using the name?
I used to strictly say that I would 100% never use an ex's name, but now I'm rethinking it. I'm going out with a guy now, and probably won't be with him for when years and years from now I have kids. I love his full name (he goes by a nickname 100% of the time) and I guess I'll see in the future if I really would go through in using it! I love another ex boyfriend's name as well, but that breakup was terrible, so I would probably think twice if that name was the "perfect name".
what are your thoughts on this?Favourites at the moment ♥
Leah, Scarlett, Sophie, Claire, Vivian, Madeleine, Evangeline, Selena, Gillian, Nina, Mila, Heidi, Isla, Hazel, Annabelle, Lydia, Celia, Violet, Genevieve
Elias, Eli, Dominic, Thatcher, Graham, Noel, Nolan, Chase, Mattias, Dean, Cole, Blake, Daniel, Ash, Rhys, Julian, Callum, Kieran, Aidan, Ronan
January 11th, 2013 06:07 PM #3Senior Member
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I think this is a little tricky. I would not give your child a name of an ex that hurt you deeply, because it could remind you of the break-up. You wouldn't want that image in your head when you soothe your baby, call him for dinner, etc. But if things ended amicably, and you genuinely loved the name, I think that it would be fine. As long as you're not naming your baby after the ex!
January 11th, 2013 06:16 PM #5
I agree that it probably depends on the situation.
I adored the named Geneva until I realized she'd probably be called Gen--which was a girlfriend on my DH who hurt him deeply.
But then it's also the city where we met, so I dunno, maybe I can convince myself that the nn Eve could be pushed and Gen spurned.Olivia/Livia/Livy/Liv : Thessaly/Darah/Bethel : Noelle/Eve
Benedict/Eli: Jude/Zane: Luke/Darius : Levi/Phineas/Calvin
January 11th, 2013 06:25 PM #7
Uhg! I'm going through this problem right now! I'm not having children soon but always like having three-five combos ready for each gender (as that is the number of kids my fiance and I want one day). Right now I'm going through an intense crush on the combo Conor Ryan . . . and lucky me for having dated both a Connor and a Brian. Neither one of them hurt me or anything, so I have absolutely NO problem using the names . . . it's my fiance that does. I can understand refusing to use Conor, but Ryan just because it rhymes? That seems a little far to me.
On the complete other hand, fiance suggested Jacey when his ex went by her initials: JC. -___-
Long story short, I'd use ex's names if I loved them enough. My relationship experience with all my exes was pretty neutral, so I wouldn't make the connection.
Alexander Owen ~ Patrick Thomas ~ Jeremy Shea ~ Nolan Jack ~ Conor Arlo ~ Evan Daniel ~ Samuel Mark
Nora ~ Claire ~ Stella ~ Maura ~ Madeleine ~ Violet ~ Victoria ~ Ava ~ Gabrielle ~ Leah ~ Soleil
January 11th, 2013 06:28 PM #9Senior Member
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I'm not really on awful terms with any of my exes...some I like more than others, some have very classic/common names while some have very unique names. My husband doesn't know the names of everyone I've ever dated...but I imagine he wouldn't be too pleased to find the name of an ex he knew about on my list! But if I briefly dated a guy named something like James (I did) and he went by Jim anyhow (he did) and I harbored no feelings of nostalgia for him (I don't) I suppose I would consider it totally usable.
I prefer names that I don't associate with people aside family tree type connections or greatly admired namesakes I guess.