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September 12th, 2013 09:56 AM #2626Senior Member
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@Dindlee, YAAAY!! I'm so glad to hear that you're joining us! I can't say what would be best for you and your husband in terms of timing because each family and marriage is different, but here are my thoughts on the general topic of marriage/baby timing. I know that several different belief systems are represented on this board, and I respect all views and don't intend to sound condescending or critical in presenting my own. I believe that God intended for marriage to come first and babies to come second, and that is the only prerequisite. I don't believe that there is any unspoken waiting period for when the babies should start. Each couple has its own needs and its own pace of doing things, but the beauty of the whole thing is that the baby takes 9 months to arrive anyway, so when you follow the family structure that God set out in the Bible, you will have a MINIMUM of 9 months to solidify your marriage and let the glue dry before the first child appears. Some couples want more time than that, some couple don't want kids at all, and that's fine, but I wouldn't criticize couples for conceiving a baby right away if they are mentally and emotionally prepared for that step...but I think that those first nine months of a baby-free household are invaluable. Obviously in cases of young widows or widowers remarrying, or in cases of divorce, or in cases of rape, there may be children already in the picture. Of course I don't believe that such households and marriages are doomed to failure. But I believe that in a perfect world, if we didn't have to worry about tragedies like spouses dying or the marriage dissolving or women being victims of rape, families are designed to start with a marriage and at least nine months with no kids (okay, I recognize the possibility of premies ). Just my two cents. I see no problem with you starting TTC right away, but only you and your husband know your marital needs and priorities.
@Andrea, refresh my memory...is this the kidney specialist that you'll be seeing next week? It will be so nice to finally get to talk to someone and hear some results! When do you expect ovulation?
@Riversong, what caused the adhesions? Please don't feel pressured to respond if it's private. How long do pelvic adhesions take to form? To answer your question, I've never yet tracked my basal body temperature and I didn't start using Wondfo ovulation predictor tests until we had tried for eight or nine cycles. We began using Pre-Seed, the sperm-friendly lube, right away. Just last month I also began trying the Mucinex trick to see if it would loosen up my cervical mucus, though I suspect that my cervical mucus is already thin enough. The Wondfo tests do give me a sense of relief to know exactly when I am ovulating, and I wish I had started using them sooner. Good luck!
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September 12th, 2013 10:02 AM #2628Senior Member
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- May 2012
@Dindlee, I didn't notice the second question in your post about how early we all started TTC. My husband and I didn't start TTC until we had been married for a year and a half, but we had some significant issues to work through first. I had vaginismus from my accident--meaning that I physically couldn't have sex--for our first 16 months of marriage. I finally was able to work through that with some types of at-home physical therapy. But also, our first year of marriage was particularly tumultuous and we were nowhere near ready to have a child in the house. We needed that time to learn to live with each other, and I'm so glad that we've had this long honeymoon phase because he's a better man and I'm a better woman after the things we've gone through these past two years. But again, every marriage is different, and not all marriages will have the intense first year that we had!
September 12th, 2013 10:21 AM #2630
Thanks for the welcome, everyone. We really are very excited!
@Alzora- I think you hit the nail on the head with how we are thinking as well. We went into our marriage knowing we wanted to start a family relatively quickly, and I happen to agree with my mother (seems to be happening more and more frequently, haha) that you are never really ready for children. I think I just worry too much about what others will say, as most of our friends have waited. But I am 31, and I have this irrational fear of being infertile. I have absolutely no reason to think I might be honestly. Everything (prior to BC) was working apparently normally, but I am not always rational... lol. As crazy as this sounds, I think the pill makes me more irrational. I know it makes my regular emotions really exaggerated... like if I cry, I sob or something funny turns into a fit of laughter.. a normal concern turns into a obsessive worry... it's insane! I was never like this before! One more week of those crazy pills!
I have to go back and refresh my memory on where every one is on this journey... this thread is huge! Have to go now... class coming in!TTC #1
Zoe Aurora | Noemí Esther
Lucas Emmanuel | Levi Alexander
Adele | Adira | Arabella | Eliana | Elizabeth | Milena | Susannah | Zara
September 12th, 2013 11:21 AM #2632Senior Member
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- Aug 2013
alzora- Thanks for the support and I am really looking forward to getting some answers because still no AF. I will keep you all updated after my appointment tomorrow.
dindlee- Welcome to the thread and congrats on your recent marriage. I would definitely finish the bc pack that you are on and then start. I think that everyone has their own ideas as to when they want to start ttc and everyone is different. My husband and I have just recently starts ttc, we started in July. We are just shy of our one anniversary so we would have been about 9 months into our marriage when we started. We would have started earlier but we had somethings that we wanted to check off our list before starting. I wanted to finish school and we wanted to move to a new house. Both of those were achieved by the end of June so when we went away on vacation we started. I think if you are ready than go for it...who cares what other people think. I hope that you get a bfp very soon and give this thread some good news!!
September 12th, 2013 11:58 AM #2634
Welcome Dindlee. I was never on BC, but I would finish the pack. Hormones are weird and it seems like stopping mid-cycle might be kind of a shock. My boyfriend and I are getting married next month- so we got started before we got married. I don't think there's any wrong way to do it. When you're ready, you're ready.
Feeling really crampy today. My last two cycles were super short, so I'm hoping that's not what this is.Trying, trying, trying
Boy: Asa Guillaume, Barnaby August
Girl: Apolline Iris- Polly, Clothilde Juno- Chloe