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Thread: Ttc 2013
August 5th, 2013 05:28 PM #2106
Good afternoon ladies. Hope y'all are doing well.
I'm still in my fertile window, so wish me luck... : )
Have a great day.
Edit: What do you Berries think of IVF? My husband and I think it is a good option for us, but we need to learn more about it. Thanks in advance!
Last edited by carlasworld; August 5th, 2013 at 05:57 PM.--CarlaMommy to Eva Lily Catherine, b. 1/31/2014
August 5th, 2013 07:06 PM #2108Senior Member
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Alzora, I totally understand. I think we're at a year of trying, and I've been obsessed for longer than that. It's exhausting and does seem like a waste of time.
In other cheery news, I keep hearing about stillbirth lately. There was an article in the New York Times about secondary infertility (trouble conceiving after having had a child) and the author had written previously, I found, about her experience with a stillbirth. She links to an NIH study that shows stillbirths occur in 1 in 160 births in the US!!!!! Is it just me, or is that an insanely high number?
Then I saw today's installment of Humans of New York. I cant figure out how to link to that post, but scroll down to the guy holding a little red head daughter: http://www.humansofnewyork.com/
In short, today seems to be stillbirth awareness day for daisychain. Again, not to be a downer, but this is something to be aware of.
August 5th, 2013 08:04 PM #2110
@Alzora... here is your answer. Sorry it's kind of long :/
Yes, I'm living with chronic pain. It's there all the time, from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep at night, and sometimes it wakes me up when I'm asleep. It's both cyclical and not, in that there are general repeated patterns (I'm in extra/different pain during ovulation and my menstrual cycle, and sometimes it lingers through that two week space between the two), but it is also unpredictable in that there are just some days that are more painful than others.
The story of how it started is kind of complicated, and I can tell you more if you'd *really* like to know (as I said before, I have no shame LOL), but the basic gist of things is that it just sort of happened. I went to bed one night, on a night pretty much just like any other, and I woke up the next day in excruciating pain. And it just never went away.
(Keep in mind I am basically a "worst case scenario" in action-- all of my doctors have basically told me that they've never seen a case like mine!)
The adhesions are tying everything together-- my bowels to my pelvic wall, my uterus to the pelvic bone, ligaments to other things, so on and so forth. I also have cervical stenosis (where my cervix is blocked off by adhesions), so severe that my doctor said she'd never seen it that closed off in someone so young with no prior surgeries. The only area that is completely clear are my ovaries, which is kind of a huge blessing considering everything else that's going wrong down there!
Basically, the adhesions are causing infertility for a few different reasons. Aside from the pain causing problems with procreative activities, the adhesions in my cervix are blocking things off and making it more difficult for fertilization to occur. The rest of the adhesions have the potential to create problems down the line if I get pregnant. However, I suspect that the majority of my problems stem from the Endometriosis, which by itself causes difficulties with conception and has a higher incidence of miscarriage, even with no other symptoms present.
My fertility specialist said that without any help, and with my situation, my chances of conception are lower than 6%. Considering that I've had only one pregnancy (miscarriage) in over 2 years of actively trying... I'd say that's pretty spot-on :/
It's definitely not easy to deal with-- I've been dealing with it for just over three years now, and there are still things that I haven't yet come to terms with. But I take things day by day, and I do what I can do when I can do it. Before I got sick I was a very active person, a dancer and a singer and an athlete and a social butterfly. Although it's a mixed blessing, in that it's forced me to slow down and enjoy things moment by moment, it's definitely hard to watch all my friends doing things that I would love to do with them, like bowling.
I try to keep a positive outlook on things, but I know how hard it can be to struggle with fertility. If you ever want to talk about things, or if you have any questions, you can always drop me a line. We are neighbors, after all <3
August 5th, 2013 08:21 PM #2112
@Carlasworld... I have mixed feelings about IVF. It certainly can help create some miracles, but it is awfully expensive and insurance (if you're in the US) doesn't cover a lot of it! My fertility specialist suggested that Hubby and I try AI (artificial insemination) before IVF, because for us time is not on our side but finances are tight.
Keep in mind that the general rule of thumb for most fertility specialists (in the US, at least) is that after the age of 35, you need to try *actively* for six months before they will consider any kind of treatment (with women under 35, it's one full year). Many won't even see you as a patient before that point!
That being said, if you reach that mark IVF treatments sound like a good possibility for you two, and it would definitely be something to talk about with a fertility specialist
August 5th, 2013 08:36 PM #2114
@knitwit -- Thanks. I've actually been TTC for about 3 1/2 months. So I guess I'll wait another 3 and then see a fertility specialist. IVF is definitely a pathway we've been considering from day 1. Thanks. : )--CarlaMommy to Eva Lily Catherine, b. 1/31/2014