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  1. #1
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    Question Pregnant and Raising a Toddler

    Hi. I'm 22 weeks pregant and have a three year old daughter who is having a hard time with my pregnancy. The first time I told her, she looked at me with a mixture of 'I don't understand' and 'I don't like this idea'. Once she even said, "I don't want it in your belly." She is also adament about not wanting a baby brother. We haven't found out the sex yet, but am wondering if I should to prepare her.

    Everyone I have known has always said their older children were thrilled to be a big sister/brother. Has anyone experienced something similar? Any tips for me?

    Thanks for listening, Berries.

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    My daughter was too young to really understand what was going on when my son was born (15 months), but I have heard stories from both sides: kids being enthusiastic or not about being a big brother/sister. I think that ideally you want to find ways to let your daughter experience having a baby around, even if it's just a baby doll. I know that it helped my niece when she was going to be a big sister (at 2). As for the sex, well...I'm not sure there's anything you can do about that beside be positive whatever the outcome. I wouldn't focus on her negativity about the baby being a boy (if little one is), but focus on the joy of having a baby either gender. A friend just announced she's having another boy and that's just what big brother wanted. I was wondering up to the announcement how big brother would react if it was a girl. In the end, I doubt that the gender of the baby will matter much once the baby has been around for a while. Most kids are able to come to terms when things don't go their way. You never really know, but I think the odds of her being happy in the end are in your favor. Good luck mamma and I hope some of these other ladies and gents can give you some better advice, or even firsthand experience!
    Current loves: Theodore & Rosalind

    Mommy to Arabella and Jude

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    Thanks for the support!

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