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March 1st, 2013 09:58 AM #206Senior Member
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- Des Moines, IA
Congrats lineska on your first purchase! And your will power to wait!
I started purchasing the minute I found out I was pregnant. (I'm horrible, I know.) I actually had a boys outfit and girls outfit ready when my BFF had her daughter in January. So, I took the boys outfit back, but kept the cutest blue sweatshirt material jacket - it works either way. And once I found out that we are expecting, I actually went back to Target and got 3 onesies - black with silver lightning bolts and red trim, $1.50 each. Figured they'd work either way.
When I found out that my now 4-yr-old son was a boy (I thought he was a girl) I used Retail Therapy to get my brain around it.
It's how I roll. (to quote my friend's 5 yr old.)Mom to:
Weston Christopher, July 2008
Keegan Nathaniel, Dec. 12, 2013
Sebastian Miller, Dec. 12, 2013
~ Emerson ~ Eden ~ Rosalind ~ Caroline ~ Matilda ~ Gemma ~
~ Landon ~ Kellan ~ Asher ~ Griffin ~ Archer ~ Edison ~ Holden ~ Harrison ~ Elliot ~
March 1st, 2013 06:01 PM #208
I just had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day about this. She's the one I wrote about who had a dangerous home birth after 3 hospital births. After a few days being very shaken, she went back to extolling the virtues of natural home birth.
She and I run a non-profit organization that has to do with women and children an she suggested that unofficially, not as part of our platform but just casually in FB posts and such, we start encouraging women to look more at home birth. She saw the Ricki Lake documentary and had a lot to say about empowerment and woman-focused etc. I told her about the blogs Hurt By Home Birth and The Skeptical OB and the studies they reference, which you can read online. She told me basically that all of that was about profit and protecting the industry. So finally I just said, we have to agree to disagree.
If I talk about something like this at all it means I have spent a LOT of time reading, researching, and thinking about it. But she encouraged me to do some more research, and suggested the Ricki Lake documentary :-)
I finally told her I could not in good conscience encourage home birth. And if it became part of our message I would have a problem.
I started researching this subject when it became apparent to me that some of the things I had always been told "good moms" do, I might not be able to do. Because I am pre-hypertensive, even if I am able to lower my BP with exercise like I am trying to do, I am a good candidate for preeclampsia, and the stress of natural labor might be dangerous for me. I had about 80% (6 lbs.) of my breast tissue removed (reduction) so nursing might be impossible for me. Assuming I can conceive, I may not have the glowing patchouli-scented mama experience I am "supposed" to have.
We are incredibly blessed to live in places where we have options. Say what you will about how invasive and evil big bad Western medicine is, if I am able to conceive it will be because of Western medicine. If I am able to give birth safely it will probably be because of Western medicine.Mrs. H.
Trying for our first.
Jack . Walker . David . Gabriel . Joe . Michael
Clementine . Margot . Elizabeth . Nadia . Grace . Emerald
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March 2nd, 2013 04:26 PM #210
Willow, and 38w1d with Veda. I would have liked to have natural, intervention free births, but the interventions kept me and my babies safe. After having Willow, breastfeeding was a major (MAJOR) struggle, and I found myself struggling with "the baby blues". It wasn't diagnosed officially as PPD, and it certainly wasn't an extreme case, but I really had a hard time coming to terms with the fact that I needed to bottle feed. I just assumed I would breast feed, that's what good moms do, right??
Yesterday morning, before I read your post, I saw this on facebook, and thought I would share.
Encouragement for moms, and a reminder to respect each other and the choices we make:
Good moms breastfeed.
Good moms formula feed.
Good moms vaccinate their kids.
Good moms don't vaccinate their kids.
Good moms co-sleep.
Good moms use cribs.
Good moms have hospital births.
Good moms have home births.
Good moms adopt.
Good moms have natural births.
Good moms have epidurals.
Good moms have c-sections.
Good moms have 10 kids.
Good moms have 1 kid .
Good moms use cloth diapers.
Good moms use disposable diapers.
March 3rd, 2013 01:54 AM #212
I saw that on FB! I think that's really cool!
Being a mom, to me, as someone who's trying hard to be one :-) is about being a mom. Y'know? Loving your child, kissing boo boos, telling them you're proud of them. It's not about the choices you make but why you make them. That's my opinion, anyway. :-)
March 3rd, 2013 12:54 PM #214