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Thread: Am I crazy?
October 2nd, 2012 10:12 PM #41
October 3rd, 2012 12:30 PM #43
That's a bummer that your mom didn't like any of the Jessica nicknames, yet chose Jessica for you.
Us name nerds have trouble fathoming that -- when I question my mom over her name choices, all I get is some permutation of "saw it in a baby name book and liked it." She didn't consider spelling or pronunciation issues, nicknames, none of it. When she gets a glimpse into my naming process, all the vetting I go through and considering it from all angles, I'm sure she'll think I'm nuts!
I've toyed with the idea of changing just the spelling of my name -- same pronunciation -- but can't bring myself to do it, even unofficially. It feels (and this is just for me, no reflection on anyone else who considers changing) false somehow, like I'm cheating my history. Every now and then I get it into my head again, but can never bring myself to do it. Major kudos to anyone who can work around this thought process!
You seem pretty set to go. What is left to consider at this point?
October 3rd, 2012 12:46 PM #45Senior Member
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Honestly, I think this is more common than people think. If you move to a new area, and use a new name, rarely will people ever know you changed it.
I know a woman who's name was Jean. In her late 30s she got married and got a new job around the same time, and so she decided to tell her new friends and coworkers her name was Beatrice. No, it was not her middle name. Just one she liked. She actually told people her name wasn't Beatrice, if the topic came up, but if she hadn't said something we never would have known.
I even know a William who discovered as an adult that his neither his first nor middle name was William. His parents were dead, and his siblings couldn't explain it. Apparently, his parents named him one thing, and then changed their minds without changing the birth certificate. These days, I think you'd have to make a formal name change if you wanted something permanent (work e-mails are assigned automatically by name, for instance), but there's nothing stopping you from telling people your name is something different.
October 3rd, 2012 01:16 PM #47
October 3rd, 2012 01:34 PM #49Senior Member
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You are not crazy at all and I think many lovely names have been suggested.
My 2 cents:
You might want to stay away from names that scream "2012". I know someone who recently changed from a popular, predictable 80's/90's name to Makayla. I thought that was a little unnatural for an adult. Almost all Makayla's are still little girls.
I would suggest "testing" out your new name for a period of time without legally changing it, just to make sure you do love it when it's used in real life.
If you think mom might feel hurt, see if you can take her input into your new name or at least make her feel like her input still matters. Ask her opinions and include them in your decision somehow.