He Says Indie, Hattie & Romy, I say Indigo, Harriet and Rosemary! Help :)

[ljandrl]

Hi Guys, I haven't posted in a while! Hope you're all well

So my partner looked over a long list of names I liked for both genders yesterday and gave his opinions. It soon become clear he's much more in to the cutesy nicknamey type names, and while I like some (Claudie, Molly), I mostly prefer longer names with the shorter forms as nicknames.

Where do you stand on this issue? And which of the following do u prefer? His faves are the first names, mine are the alternatives!

Hattie - Harriet (he used to like Harriet, now decides he doesn't so I'm making him reconsider! Lol)
Indie - Indigo (He likes Indigo but prefers Indie, India isn't an option)
Romy - Rosemary (this is a definite no so I came up with Rosalia, Rosaline and Rosamay that he's ok with, thoughts?)
Angelica - Anneliese (not quite the same premise but his fave is still "cuter" and mine more sophisticated imo, I like both though so thoughts?)
Lila - Lilac (again not quite the same, but he prefers the more common Lila and I prefer the more unusual Lilac - thoughts?)
Tessa & Jessamine - we actually both like both equally here, but can't use both, so which do you prefer?

Thanks for the input guys!

[kiki]

Hattie - Harriet
Harriet. hattie is not my style. I'd use Harry as a nn if anything
Indie - Indigo
Prefer Indigo but would end up usig Indie as a nn
Romy - Rosemary
Romy. Rosemary isn't my style and Romy isn't a natural nn for it for me
Angelica - Anneliese
Anneliese is more classic so I prefer that. Annie is an ok nn
Lila - Lilac
Lila (prefer the Lilah spelling though). Lilac just sounds wrong to me
Tessa & Jessamine
Neither? Jessamine sounds more complete if I had to chose but I'd only go for Jess/Jessie as a nn.

I think this shouldn't be a problem. If you love Harriet (for example) and he loves Hattie you could give the baby Harriet officially but your husband could use the nn on a day to day basis.

[dantea]

I prefer:

Harriet (though don't really like it)
Indie -- because I dislike Indigo a lot. May I suggest Indira for the nn Indie?
Angelica -- may I suggest Angelique? It's more sophisticated that Angelica, but has the same sort of sounds
Lila
Jessamine

For Romy, I don't like any of your names with the nn Romy (Rosemary is the only one I think it sort of works with), but I do think Romy should be a nn for a longer name (my favorite way to get Romy is Andromeda or Romilly), how about:

Jeroma
Merom
Roma
Romana
Romea
Romia
Romilda
Romina

[holbs]

As a general rule, I prefer the longer names to the nicknames, just because it gives them something to grow into, and more nn options in case your Harriet doesn't look like a Hattie, but is a tomboy who prefers Harry.
I've bolded my preferences:
Hattie - Harriet
Indie - Indigo
Romy - Rosemary
Angelica - Anneliese
Lila - Lilac
Tessa & Jessamine

I think both Lila and Tessa are all right, I just prefer Lilac and Jessamine to them a bit more. As far as Indie, as pp said, you could try Indira, or maybe Indre (prn In-drah)?

[c@29]

Harriet (but actually I don't really like it too)
Indigo. Or maybe Indianna?
Angelica-Anneliese. love both.
Lila
Jessamine. I like the nicknane Jessa/Jessie.

[nay_han]

I prefer longer names with nn options.

Of Your Names, I like..
Harriet- Also, have you guys thought about Hadley?
Indigo- Not my style
Romy- I feel like this is more of a name than a nn
Annaliese- This is my favorite. It's pretty written and spoken. I love the nn options- Anna, Nali, and Liese
Lilac- This just seems more complete
Tessa- This could work b/c u can get the nn Tess from it.

[mischa]

Harriet - I prefer Hattie as a name more than Harriet but I still think that the longer Harriet would be best so your daughter can revert back to the full name when she matures and feels she's outgrown Hattie. You will have a Claudie too and maybe an Ivy so that makes me choose Harriet as well. I think you should continue to work on him!

Indigo - Chapters Indigo is a popular book and music store in Canada and Indie just reminds me of car racing (Indy 500). It'll stick with Indigo nn Indie on this one but it's not a favourite.

Rosemary/Rosaline nn Romy - Both are very pretty but I think Romy is more of a natural nn for Rosemary than Rosaline.

Anneliese - I like Angelica but not as much as Anneliese.

Lila - I love both names but the vintage Lila I would use for a first name and Lilac for a quirky mn choice.

Jessamine - This name seems more substantial than Tessa to me. I prefer just Tess.

[thuja]

At my age I cannot help but experience cute-cute names (as given full names) on girls as demeaning in a fundamental sense. I think it's one thing for a young woman to choose this for herself, but a whole other thing for it to be imposed on her. In the UK, I know this naming style is going on in full swing, and for boys as well, but again, I find it demeaning, like kids are cute accessories or poodles. Sorry, I know this is a strong opinion and not everyone will agree, but why even go down this road when nicknames are fully available?

[daniclarkrn]

Compromise: Choose to name the baby with the longer name, and use the shorter option as her nickname.

[ljandrl]

At my age I cannot help but experience cute-cute names (as given full names) on girls as demeaning in a fundamental sense. I think it's one thing for a young woman to choose this for herself, but a whole other thing for it to be imposed on her. In the UK, I know this naming style is going on in full swing, and for boys as well, but again, I find it demeaning, like kids are cute accessories or poodles. Sorry, I know this is a strong opinion and not everyone will agree, but why even go down this road when nicknames are fully available?

I guess it's all personal opinion on what's "too cute" to the point of sounding babyish or like a pet's name and what is a name that sounds both cute on a child and appropriate on an adult. I know "ee" ending names can sound cutesy, but Lucy, Amy, Holly etc - these names sound very cute on a child, but age really well in my opinion. It's not like I suggested calling my child Buddy, Flopsy or Bunny!

Giving a child an overly flowery, elegant name like Arabella, Eloisa, Genevieve etc (which I love btw!) could be seen just as much as treating your child like an "accessory" as using "cute" names. My personal test of whether a name is going to be appropriate for my child once he or she is an adult is to imagine havign to introuduce myself with the name. As long as I felt comfortable doing that, then I'm happy to use it for a child. And I'm not the most outgoing person!

You're entitled to your opinion, but my thread was looking for opinions on specific names and whether you prefer using full names or nicknames. I hope it doesn't end up hijacked and get used to rant about nickname names in general. Simply saying they're not your style is fine, beyond that, I think it would be more useful to start a new thread in "Talk About Names" to express your opinion regarding it and see what others think

Claudie for example - not a nickname name but a French name and the name of a Claudie Haigneré a 55 year old French politician, doctor and astronaut! Her name certainly hasn't held her back in life and I doubt she felt "demeaned" by it! So really, I think you should specify which names you mean when you make such strong statements, and understand that everyone will feel differently about those names.

Where I live, Milly, Molly, Tilly, Josie, Rosie, Annie etc are used often on their own. I don't see anything demeaning about them! I do draw the line personally at names like Honey, Pixie, Bunny, or Jamie Oliver's Petal Blossom Rainbow!! Lol. So I guess we all have different tolerance levels. Thanks for the opinion though.