He Says Indie, Hattie & Romy, I say Indigo, Harriet and Rosemary! Help :)

[ljandrl]

Thanks everyone!

I may try and sell him on full names on the birth certificates and then he can use the nicknames day to day.

Romy is the one I could most see myself using as a full name. I get what people are saying about Rosemary being the only one that really makes sense for the nn Romy. Unfortunately I'm not keen on the other ideas suggested, except Romilly which I love but my partner strongly dislikes! I still like Rosamay or Rosameé. I feel like I could "get away with" Rosalia and Roslaine if I did for example, Rosalia Mary nn Romy. What do you think? I do love just Romy though, so maybe if I can't covince him of Rosemary, I should just opt for that?

I really adore Harriet (despite it's top 100 status in the UK which is off putting!) and it's a family name for me. We have considered Hadley though and both like it, but as Mischa pointed out we always tend to go for "ee" ending names so I think we need to try and steer away from too many more of them. Or on the other hand maybe we just embrace it and make it our theme!? Oh I don't know!

Mischa, I think you hit the nail on the head with Lila v Lilac. I know my partner likes Lilac but I don't think he can see himself calling it out on a daily basis so maybe I should just use it as a middle. I think I'd rather use Lilac as a middle name than Lila as a first name though.

Thanks all, anymore advice would be great!

[tay2thestars]

Hattie - Harriet : I'm not a fan of either name, but Harriet is much more sophisticated.
Indie - Indigo : I love Indie! I personally don't like Indigo; it seems masculine, and even on a boy it seems a little odd. I'll put in another vote for the suggestion of Indiana.
Romy - Rosemary : Roselia is beautiful! How about Romilly with the nickname Romy?
Angelica - Anneliese : Anneliese is stunning! I think it's sweet, soft and more angelic sounding than the rougher Angelica.
Lila - Lilac : I think this is a fresh spin on Lila. It's adorable!
Tessa & Jessamine : Tessa is cuter in my opinion, but I really like it as a nickname for Theresa/Teresa.

Sorry for repeated suggestions, suggestions you have already commented on, etc

[gblondie]

Hattie - Harriet = Hattie
Indie - Indigo = Indigo is a boys name to me + I like Indie better, what about Indira and indie for short?
Romy - Rosemary = Romy, what about Romilly?
Angelica - Anneliese = You win one! Anneliese is NMS but I find it prettier than angelica, and less common
Lila - Lilac = Lila, but I prefer the Lilah spelling
Tessa & Jessamine - NMS, but I would chose Tessa if I had to.

So apparently my style tends to lean towards your husbands.

[stripedsocks]

Hattie - Harriet - Harriet, if I had to pick, but not keen on either.
Indie - Indigo - Much prefer Indigo.
Romy - Rosemary - Rosemary first pick, then Andromeda. None of the others work for me, sorry.
Angelica - Anneliese - I think these are about as sophisticated as each other. I run into more Annelieses and Annikas than I do Angelicas. I would go Angelica or Angelina before Anneliese.
Lila or Lilac - I love Lilac. Lila is nice but I LOVE Lilac. Lila, however, is not nearly as babyish as Hattie/Romy/Indie.
Tessa & Jessamine - Jessamine! I love Jessamine. Very underrated floral name.

Jessamine Lila is actually very pretty if you wanted to compromise with one you both like and then one of his as middle.

I really like Rosemary, Lilac, and Jessamine but wouldn't use them together as it starts to sound really really floral.

[jeannigrace]

What about something like Rose Amy (with Amy as the middle name) for Romy? Or Rosalia Molly/Rosalia Maya? Personally I'm with you on the longer names and I love Romy as a nickname for Rosemary. A previous poster suggested Hadley with the nickname Hattie, and I think that's a great idea! You have great taste.

[emmybee]

I always always always think using longer names with a desirable short form is better than bestowing a nickname as a first name. Hattie is cute, but do you want your daughter to grow up wondering why she didn't get a "real" full name? Far better to choose a long form like Henrietta or Harriet and always call her Hattie.

[ljandrl]

What about something like Rose Amy (with Amy as the middle name) for Romy? Or Rosalia Molly/Rosalia Maya? Personally I'm with you on the longer names and I love Romy as a nickname for Rosemary. A previous poster suggested Hadley with the nickname Hattie, and I think that's a great idea! You have great taste.

Thank you, I see you had a similar idea to my Rosalia Mary nn Romy! So do you think something along those lines could work? I adore Molly so maybe Rosalia Molly would be perfect

[misshoppy]

I'm with you on the longer names with nicknames. I feel that it's important that a woman have a name that she can use professionally.

[meogan]

This seems like such an easy solution. You basically like the same names. Use the longer forms on the birth certificate and call them by the nicknames. Compromise...

[thuja]

Sorry ljandrl that I was too strident in my post, I apologize again. I am especially interested in the cultural reasons that naming patterns come in and out of popularity, but I agree with you that it's unfair to possibly hijack someone else's post this way, even inadvertently.

I have a friend who changed her name from Nancy to Hattie about 20 years ago. At the time, she made her living knitting one-of-a-kind hats, so it was fitting.

I do like all the names you're considering, and I failed to mention even that in my first post......I love Indigo, though I agree that it's probably unisex. I love the color, the dye, and the imagery, and it does have such a great nickname. I love Romy as well, and think it makes a good nickname for either Rosemary or Romilly or Rose Amy as someone else suggested. I have a good friend named Rosemary who grew up being called Rory and came not to like the boyishness of that at all. Today she goes by Rosemary. I think either Lila or Lilac would be awesome.