Foster Care/Adoptive Parents

[whirligig]

I want to adopt too when I'm older! Just to add to the questions-has anyone here changed the name of their adoptive child. I know I sound awful but I just couldn't live with it if she was called something like Princess. Also, names sometimes can give impressions and if her name is on registers and legal documents I couldn't bring myself to write it down. Is changing the name of your adoptive child legal?

[pansy]

I want to adopt too when I'm older! Just to add to the questions-has anyone here changed the name of their adoptive child. I know I sound awful but I just couldn't live with it if she was called something like Princess. Also, names sometimes can give impressions and if her name is on registers and legal documents I couldn't bring myself to write it down. Is changing the name of your adoptive child legal?

Yes, it is legal to change your adoptive child's name. I don't have an adopted child myself but a couple I'm friends with adopted a foster child a few years ago. They did change her name because her original name was one of those awful names along the lines of Princess (she also had three middle names and each was more kre8tive and ridiculous then the next, so no good naming options there either). When it came to remaining her, what they did was make a list of about 30 names (some similar in sound to her original names, some not) and let her choose which one she wanted and they chose the middle name. As far as I know, the little girl was fine with changing her name (she was about 7 at the time).

[encore]

Yes, it is legal to change your adoptive child's name. I don't have an adopted child myself but a couple I'm friends with adopted a foster child a few years ago. They did change her name because her original name was one of those awful names along the lines of Princess (she also had three middle names and each was more kre8tive and ridiculous then the next, so no good naming options there either). When it came to remaining her, what they did was make a list of about 30 names (some similar in sound to her original names, some not) and let her choose which one she wanted and they chose the middle name. As far as I know, the little girl was fine with changing her name (she was about 7 at the time).

I think it's really great that they let their daughter have a say. It is her name after all.

[whirligig]

That sounds like a good idea! I also think that it is a fresh start for the child and choosing a new name gives them a new identity which helps them forget some of the awful things that have happened to them.

[rachelxoxo]

I would never want to tell you what you should do but I want to adopt too. A deal-breaker for me with a guy is not wanting children (like many women) though not willing/wanting to adopt is also a deal-breaker to me as well. You have to decide what is the most important to you /or not. Good luck with everything . .

[rachelxoxo]

Also compromise is important. My bf now wants bio children and if we stay together we will try for bio children and adopt too.