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June 28th, 2012 04:35 PM #1Senior Member
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Tell me about labor.
My husband and I might start trying to conceive our first in August or September, so I'm trying to mentally prepare myself for the prospect of pregnancy and labor. I've heard that labor can feel like either really bad menstrual cramps (which I could handle), or like really bad diarrhea cramps (which I've only had once, and it was the worst pain I've ever felt in my entire life). I'm terrified of it feeling like the intestinal diarrhea cramps that accompany food poisoning or viruses. I'll take the epidural, but how much does that help? Will I still suffer for hours? I know, I sound like a wimp! I just want to know what I'm signing up for.
June 28th, 2012 06:12 PM #3Senior Member
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Um... pretty sure it's worse than BOTH of those combined lol. If that was it no one would need pain meds!Mommy to Ivory (the cat), Hudson (the bulldog mix), and LittleFoot aka Lilla (the lab x terrier).
Our little girl is due February 2013.
June 28th, 2012 09:53 PM #5Senior Member
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I can't really accurately tell you how it feels. Everyone handles the pain differently and everyone has a different labor experience. The baby's position and your comfort level (with your surroundings-- are you in a sterile hospital where people are treating you like a number, are you in a hospital or birth center that is more homey/cozy, are you in your own home with people you want around you to support you) can have alot to do with it too.
The best advice is to not worry about the unknown at this point. Do research about different options of how/where you can give birth. Talk to friends, coworkers, or people from a social group/church, etc. to find out where they gave birth-- in places where you have multiple hospitals, there is often one "winner" that everyone seems to love to birth at. Also, research pain options...whether you definitely want to go that route or you just want to know your options for when you get into it... it's important to know the benefits/risks ahead of time. Also, research different relaxation and birthing techniques- Lamaze is popular, Bradley Method is great (love that one), hypnobirthing is very interesting. You can take classes in all of these. You might want a water birth. you might want a homebirth. Is there a birth center nearby? Educate yourself. Don't think of childbirth only in terms of the pain. It's an empowering experience and you have the opportunity to have the type of birth you want to have. I am not saying it will be pain free (even with an epidural), but being comfortable with your birth choices is a great feeling. Also, it's always great to focus on that end result when in labor. Each contraction (I prefer to call them "surges") brings the baby one step closer to your arms. Lastly, your body was designed to give birth...don't fight it. I feel the most pain when I fight it and don't feel comfortable with what is happening. For me to personally feel comfortable in a birthing situation, I have had to educate myself on the birth process...focusing on the "natural" side of it....meaning, this is what my body is made to do.Wife to one great guy
Mama to six pretty ladies: Scarlett (11), Penelope (9), Alice (3), Fiona (3), and Lucille & Coraline (11 mo.)
& 4 angels gone before us
~We fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.~
June 29th, 2012 03:34 PM #7Senior Member
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I am not someone who deals well with pain at all. I actually have a track record of passing out, so when it came to the idea of childbirth (well, childbirths in my case as it was twins) I was petrified. I've heard labor is vastly different for everyone, but a few things in my experience are worth mentioning.
First, it was not comfortable by any means, but the pain was not nearly as bad as I had anticipated. (As a side note, I was in very uncomfortable early labor for about a month so part of my reaction could have been the relief of those symptoms as well.) My husband says that during labor there were a few moments where I told him I couldn't do it (and I'm sure I said that) but even just afterward I remember thinking something along the lines of "OK. I made it. That was intense and painful but not impossible." I had anticipated getting a walking epidural, but when the time came I didn't end up wanting it.
I went into labor in the early morning hours (around 3 am) and was incredibly hungry during labor. I typically ate a few times during the night in the final weeks of my pregnancy but it wasn't enough for my 9 hours of labor. I was not allowed any solid foods (due to the worry that it might cause complications if I had to have an emergency c-section and be under anesthesia) but I did have an intern in the room who must have brought me a mug of soup about 8 times!
Also, I have to reiterate the 'your body knows what it is doing' message. That was sort of my mantra during the last weeks as I was so nervous, but its truth was immediately apparent once I was in active labor. The absolute last thing I wanted to be doing was lying down. My body was screaming to be upright. I knew instinctively when to push.
It definitely helped my nerves to read about what what was coming. I think I felt more in control and prepared. The book I read was The Doula Guide to Birth by Rachel Zimmerman and Ananda Lowe, and I highly recommend it. While I didn't use a doula (and had never planned to) I felt it offered a clear description of what changes your body undergoes as well as outlining various different options for dealing with the pain.
Of course it is scary and you can't help but thinking about it, but my advice would be to try to hold off stressing about the pain until your second or third trimester. Then try to focus your stress into learning about your options for the delivery. Good luck!Mama to twin boys Oliver Graham and Luke Axel
June 29th, 2012 05:27 PM #9Senior Member
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It's different for every woman & every pregnancy is different & every labor & delivery is different. Just be prepared for ANYTHING to happen! That's the best way to prepare yourself! :-)
My 1st girl I had severe morning sickness, was induced for signs of preclampsia & only had 2hrs of pushing. I thought it was rather easy & was ready to start TTC #2 when the first was a year old.
My 2nd, a boy, we finally got after 3yrs of trying. Morning sickness was better but I was miserable the whole dang time! Had twice the normal amount of amniotic fluid & so my belly got very large! I put myself on bedrest just 'cause it was hard to be comfortable anywhere else. Which kinda sucked for my girl, she ended up watching a lot of tv or just chilling in the bed with me. Had a scheduled induction but labor started on it's own. Very bad back labor! Water didn't break on it's own. Got stuck dilating with "just a rim" & used all my energy trying push for finishing the dilation! Ended up with vacuum extraction which also meant a catheter...OUCH!!!!!!!!
I never had an epidural but did have pain meds in the IV which didn't do squat for me the second time.
This one, my #3 & 2nd girl...had severe morning sickness again but got an anti-nausea med that really helped. I've been able to be more active this time than last time. But, since my abs are like jello from my boy, nothing is being held in or up so my uterus is flopped down over my pubic bone & I will have to start out on my back during labor to allow the baby to be pushed down into the pelvis for delivery. Crossing my fingers that I won't need a C-section, but I'm not gonna let this one keep cooking past July 13th so am planning on a scheduled induction again while HOPING for baby to come sooner on it's own! I have abt 17 days 'til my due date. I don't wanna be preggo for 17 more days! Esp in this heat!
Good luck OP!