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June 21st, 2012 09:26 AM #1
What would you do if your child hated their name?
Since my other thread got more focused on hating first names and no one really answered the second question, I was wondering how you would react or how you would feel if your child hated their name or decided to change their name? Would you let them change it if they were under 18?
I don't have kids yet, but it's something I worry about from time to time, especially with seeing some people on here looking for help in changing their name. I also know people who do hate their first name, but they usually went to using middle names.
I think I would feel hurt if my child told me she or he hated his or her name. Any name I chose would be one I loved and for her or him to hate it would be devastating. I probably would try to find out why and see if that fixes it, but if not and they still hate it at 18, then there's nothing I can do.
June 21st, 2012 09:38 AM #3Senior Member
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I would let them go by another name if they chose, but no formal name changes until 18. I HATED my middle name as a child. It was after my grandmothers. I just hated that it was so OLD. Now I love the family connection
And it's actually coming back into style. I would be upset now if I had had changed it.--Villette
Mother to two wonderful boys!
June 21st, 2012 09:58 AM #5Senior Member
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I disliked how popular my first name was as a kid, and I have two middle names (one is my mothers maiden name) which made it confusing for other people when filling out legal forms. I wanted to change it, but I'm really glad I never did.
I think all kids, especially teenagers, go through a phase where they "hate" their name and want to experiment with nicknames. Its usually while they are trying to carve out their own identity and separate themselves more from their parents. I wouldn't let my child legally change their name before 18 and I'd really encourage them to wait until their 20's to decided if they still hated it or not.
June 21st, 2012 07:28 PM #7Senior Member
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I would support them in changing it. If they were under 18 I would let them go by a different name for a while and if they liked and it stuck I would help them change it legally. If they were over 18 obviously it's their choice but I would support it and call them by whatever name they chose. I think a name is a very personal and important thing and life is too short to be called something you really hate for your whole life. I have a good friend who changed her name after she graduated high school and she has never regretted it, she much prefers the name she has chosen for herself to the one her parents gave her.
June 21st, 2012 07:38 PM #9
I'd feel very sad, because I truly love the names I picked out so far and I put a lot, and I mean alot of thought into them. Even my SO says that he hopes they never turn out to hate their name because I've put so much thought into it. lol
However, I understand what it's like to have a name you don't like, and so yes ultimately I'd support a change.
Under 18, I would not allow it because so much happens under 18 that can change your name tastes and wants to change a name. I'd totally allow them to go by a different name, but not until they were over 18 would they be allowed to change it. Unless it was a name that they'd gone by for like 5 years and it fit them to a T etc.
I think if a child is named with love and reason beyond "I just liked the name", chances are they won't hate it, and they won't want o change it.
My first name is the only name my parents both agreed on, and also it's a name my mother thought would fit an Aries baby.
So I appreciate the latter, but the former makes me dislike the name even more. Or rather feel uncomfortable with it.
My second middle name is my great-aunt's name and I love it the most. It's not necessarily my style, but I still like it a lot and am less likely to change that part. I still don't think I'd want it as a first name though.
Ultimately the way I see it: "Life's too short, why not have the name you want?"Laurel - 2O - Aries - Slytherin - University of Toronto
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