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June 20th, 2012 02:14 PM #1Junior Member
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Worried about all the "what if's" that come with a new baby
I am pregnant with my fourth baby and there is an six year age difference in my third and the new baby. Which also means I am 6 years older! Now all the thoughts going through my head are not the fun stuff it is what if this baby has a disability or something like that. I just remember when I was pregnant with my other kids they didn't talk so much about the autism or aspergers or even the downs or cp. Now all you hear are the chances that your baby could have this or this and it scares the heck out of me!! All three of my kids are healthy and it keeps me up at night thinking about this baby!!
June 20th, 2012 06:56 PM #3
A lot of the things you hear are purely fear mongering and media hype, many of the "bad" things that happen to and with children nowadays aren't any more common than they were 6, or 60 years ago, it all just gets far more publicized now. It's true that chances of a medical problem DO increase with maternal age, but it doesn't guarantee anything. Do not stress over the things you can't control in life, just relax, remain calm, and know that you are never given anything you can't handle. You have 3 happy, healthy children and and you are expecting your 4th, enjoy this!
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June 21st, 2012 07:44 PM #5
You definitely definitely need to clear those thoughts out of your mind.
Your baby is a part of you and that means whatever you're feeling is communicated to the baby. Focus on what you do want, and not on what you don't want.
Your other three kids are healthy, so there's no track record of disabilities. You've got that going for you.
I know of a 40+ year old woman who had her 6 and 7th kids, twin girls, and they're completely healthy, and she didn't give birth too early either.
If you're religious, or even if you're not, just be thankful.
Say things like "I'm so happy and grateful for my fourth healthy child.", and over time you'll believe it and your baby will benefit from those positive feelings.Laurel - 2O - Aries - Slytherin - University of Toronto
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June 21st, 2012 07:51 PM #7
It really depends on your age, your first 3 children are healthy, but you are older now, if you are over 45 you have a lot more risks of having a baby with a disability or even a still birth. It's a doctor's job to tell you these things so that you are prepared for the risk. However, it doesn't guarantee that you will have a disabled baby, you might have a perfectly healthy one. Just listen to your doctor and do what he or she tells you and you should be fine or at a lower risk. In some cases you just can't control it.
Sorry I'm not all "don't worry," but I prefer telling the truth and I think you need to worry a little so that you are prepared. Knowing the risks will allow you not to accept the idea and then if the baby does have a disability you're not in shock, or if the baby is healthy, your ecstatic.
For now just hope for the best