Pls help me name my 2 day old beautiful baby boy
Hi all, new to the forum, wish I had found it earlier. I would really appreciate your advice.
My husband and I have had so much trouble settling on a boy's name. Our last name is Italian and C__lini (3 syllables). The middle name should be my maiden name (Croatian, T_-_-ic, 3 syllables). (My name would only appear on passport and diplomas, would not otherwise be used). We might add a first middle name for his father who passed away (Gianfranco, or Frank).
So the name would be Firstname Gianfranco T_-_-ic C__lini. No hyphen. The name at school and in everyday life would simply be Firstname C_lini.
Now, while my husband is of Italian descent, he is the only one in his family without a super Italian first name (Bruce) and feels that this "waspy" or "English-sounding" name helped him not be judged by his ethnicity and not become a "Gino". He does feel Italians are discriminated against and teased, or are associated with shows like Jersey shore, or are teased about having potential mob associations bc of shows like the Sopranos. I disagree and love Italian names, but have accepted that choosing a name like Leonardo C--lini may be a little over the top Italian for us native English-speaking North Americans.
I have wanted to avoid names that are very popular, on the top 100 list, if possible.
Here are names on our "longlist":
Leo (Leonardo as long version was vetoed)
We have narrowed it down to: Roman, Orson, and Oliver.
Oliver sounds nice with C--lini as I think the "L" sounds to well together. The problem I have is that Oliver is a less distinctive name, is more popular, and it doesn't seem as strong a name to me, or masculine enough. Ollie is cute but I wonder if it is solid enough.
Roman is a strong name and I think it suits the baby. However, we are worried that it is "too Italian" even though "Romano" would be the Italian version, the name coming from "citizen of Rome" might be too over the top, or trying to hard to be Italian, or having negative associations (like people saying the kid is destined to be a mob boss for eg). I like the idea of calling baby "Romy" but I know this is a girl's name, so maybe this won't be possible...
Orson is also a strong name. However, we are scared it is too out of left field? We are not sure what we prefer!
My husband likes Rowan a lot, likely bc it's an English name and avoids an Italian connotation, but I much prefer Roman as I feel it sounds stronger and more "manly", if I can say that.
So, my question is:
Should we go with Roman, Oliver, or Orson, or something on the long list?
Is Roman C--lini too strongly ethnically Italian if we want our kid to just fit in with all kids and not be called a mobster?
Is Romy too girly of a nickname?
Should we drop the middle name of Gianfranco or Frank?
Your opinions and suggestions are so appreciated. Would love to have a fresh perspective.