I think on the subject of certain names garnering more attention that others it's not a matter of clique, or fakery, persay. It's more so that most nameberry users aren't just soon-to-be mothers searching for a name for their little Jimmy or Lily, they're mostly people who are in love, or obsessed with names, and therefore have a more imaginative or passionate way of looking at names and putting them together.
They won't be as interested in the everyday commonplace names that aren't as dynamic as some other names. Also, most people irl aren't as interested in names at all. I mean, I just asked my 19 year old boyfriend what he'd name his son or daughter and he picked Michael and Sarah. Whereas I, a 20 year old obsessed name lover would choose something like Alessandra, and possibly Eden for a boy. He laughed at the name Michaelanglo, whereas I gush over it.
I wouldn't go to the people I know personally to discuss my love for Eden on a boy, or Caspian, or Kol, or even Alessandra on a daughter, but I'd come here in a heartbeat.
I think when you look at it in that perspective, certain posts don't seem so fake anymore.
Yes I used to have my age in my signature so people would know I wasn't pregnant and my taste isn't too unusual but when I get annoyed mostly when a new member joins up and posts that they have a baby or say meet Freda born in June. I think those are fakers especially when there babies have really unusual names.
Originally Posted by redwoodfey
What more can you say about the classic names? The wording is definitely important:
'What do you think of John?' will get you 5 responses
'I like John but worry that it's too stale and boring. Is John dated? Do you find it boring?' will get you at least 3 pages about the beauty of John.
I like the more 'out of the box' names so I'm more likely to respond to those threads. I especially try to respond to the really out there posts because I know the OP will get lambasted. In general Nameberry is quite conservative and biased (in regards to unisex names). Out there names get lots of responses but remember that a good number of them are negative. Would you rather a handful of kind words or a truckload of 'It's terrible', 'Your child will hate you', 'He will be teased', and etc?
Why is it that when someone talks about unique names, it is in the context of outrageous names? A name does not not have to be John or Jane in order for it to be different, but as someone else has mentioned....Faerydae....seriously? And yes, that "name" has been mentioned, along with others such as Firefly, Rapunzel, Happy and other over the top ridiculous names. You can be "unique" without going over the deep end, and one should be given more than a couple responses without having to be pregnant or have a wild taste in names.
Originally Posted by nat108
Caspian, Alessandra and Eden aren't over the top in the slightest. I know a couple of Alessandras, Eden isn't so out there in the sea of Aidens and Jaydens and Caspian is a literary name found in the fantasy epic by C.S. Lewis.
Originally Posted by east93