As you can tell from my signature, Vanessa is on my list. I don't think that the name Vanessa is dated, and I really don't care if other people think it is. Honestly, I don't like most people's taste in names these days. Look at all the horribly trendy names that are going to be outdated quicker than the kids they're bestowed upon learn how to spell them. Or what about the harsh sounding vintage revivals? They make me think of walkers, dentures and depends diapers. Or what about the boring classics? They've been used so much, I drift off to sleep just thinking about them. Vanessa manages to avoid all of those stereotypes because it is gorgeous and transcends categorization. For me, Vanessa evokes an image of youth, beauty, elegance, sophistication with just the right amount of spunk. Not many names check all of those boxes. You picked a gorgeous, modern classic for your child. I have to tell you, the people so are responding negatively are probably offended at Vanessa's beauty. They probably named their kids androgynous, clunky or boring names because they're afraid to use beautiful feminine names for their girls. Be proud of your choice OP! Your baby girl will thank you later!
I don't see anything bad about Vanessa at all! It's like Jessica, Christy, Amanda, Jennifer, etc like all those names from the late 80s early 90s.
Lol this is quite the compliment-like all those other 80s names..charming. Is this the kind of negative feedback you're getting OP? I guess this is one of those cases where you look at the signature and say-do I like any of the names on their list? And the answer to that question dictates how you interpret the response.
And ps: I disagree with this statement. All of the aforementioned names are dated mom names because they were very popular (top 10) in the 80s and 90s while Vanessa barely made it into the top 50 at it's absolute peak.
I don't know why people you have encountered don't like it. I think it's great!
Vanessa is amazing!! i love Nessa Inessa because it has Ines/inez
I don't think Vanessa is dated at all. Love the name if it wasn't already taken by my sister it would be on my list.
You chose that lovely name for a reason! Next time you are getting negative comments just think back on why you chose it and all tge things that make the name sound lovely to you!!
I also had a baby in March and really struggled choosing a name...it helps to say her name confidently and excitedly when introducing her. I noticed at first when I sounded unsure people tended to not comment, but once I got more used to it being "the one" I said it more enthusiastically people responded much more positively!
Fwiw I think Vanessa is cute! I love long flowy names like that! She can go by Van, Anna, Essie...lucky girl!!!
I'm baffled by what kind of negative reaction people could have to Vanessa Claire. To me it doesn't scream a decade out, so I don't think it's dated. It seems like a timeless name that will sound good at any age your daughter is. I would rather be Vanessa than one of many Avas or Sophias she will go to school with...
I would absolutely not change your child's name because of other people's reactions. You obviously chose it for a reason!
It just isn't really heard as much. I know it sounds familiar, apart from the Little Mermaid bit someone mentioned, and I remember the character being not necessarily perfect...?
There's Vanessa Hudgens, a Disney star who has recently faded out to the best of my knowledge; a few nude picture scandals. She's not super popular among anyone over the age of fifteen who I know, but that's not really a reason to cringe at the name. I had to google 'Vanessa' to figure out who I was thinking of.
Other Vanessas I can think of:
In Juno, the adoptive mother of the baby was named Vanessa, played by Jennifer Garner. She was a good character, a bit uptight and overwhelming, but well-played and ended up being the good guy.
A semi-recent indie film, Dear Lemon Lima. The main character is named Vanessa. But that's not too negative, just odd (it's an odd movie, especially if you live in Alaska), and pretty obscure.
The previously-mentioned Little Mermaid sub-character.
Maybe you're just running into a bunch of people who knew Vanessas and had bad experiences. At any rate, it isn't worth going through the whole process again just to make everyone around you happy. You and your husband are happy. That is the important thing here.
Definitely this. And, let's be honest, what's more important: your love of the name or short replies from people you don't know much? Your name choice shouldn't be loved by everyone but must be loved by you.
Originally Posted by celianne
Keep this beautiful name and don't worry.