Well, I'm glad I'm appreciated. ;)
Well, I'm glad I'm appreciated. ;)
I keep waiting for someone to be all "just because we're berries doesn't mean our taste is better! If you love M'jadeistyn, use it! Good taste in names comes from the heart!"
To which I preemptively say: No. No it doesn't. Good taste in names comes from hearing/reading lots of names, caring about names, and occasionally looking some up and researching them, which is the definition of a Berry. Sure, individual taste is subjective-- some berries are fans of names like Tallulah, others prefer obscure ones like Ophelia, still others favor solid classics like Catherine. But all three of those names are infinitely more tasteful than Brynzleigh and Jaidyn, simply because they're actual names with a history of use. Sure, non-berries might react with horror to meeting little Ophelia and Harriet-- but the berries who chose those names probably put a lot more thought into their choices than the horrified non-berries did into naming little Masen and Mackenzie.
Also, in a hundred years it could very well be Caden and Nevaeh that are the classy names, while less tasteful parents opt for 1003lyn and Binary Transmutation Conductor. But that isn't the case yet.
I see a lot of names on here that aren't for me. I like really classic names that are perhaps a little bit old fashion. Names that everyone should be able to pronounce, spell and recognize. However I do appreciate a lot of names that I personally wouldn't want to use for my own children. Part of that stems from having a really difficult to spell and rare last name so they'll already be busy correcting everyone with the pronunciation and spelling of their last name. I think part of the reason I enjoy the baby naming games so much is to stretch my wings a little and use some more rarer names.
That our taste in names are super crazy? Yup. Though I'm sure there a non-berries out there who appreciate some of our name tastes.
My taste in names tends to run from the fairly mainstream to the pretty obscure. If I like a name I'm going to like it popularity be damned.
That doesn't mean I haven't recieved the side-eye when mentioning some of my more obscure favourites.
Still, I've mellowed out a lot recently about names, there's an reason behind each and every one, it might not be to my tastes and I might think the reasoning is a bit crap, but such is life, you know? It takes all sorts etc.
Recently names were discussed on a non name board I follow. These were all horse people, and for the most part they disliked the -ayden trend as well as the Mc/Macs. However, I had to laugh because one of the members just couldn't fathom burdening a daughter with the name Hazel. And there I was, finding it hard to imagine Hazel being too much (too much what? Old lady? Word name? I have no idea!)....
I'm pretty sure non NB ppl would find my choices nerdy or offbeat. They're barely offbeat for Nameberry standards (Fiona, Dean, Truett, Lachlan, Cordelia, Willow, etc).
Echoing other posters, I am fairly used to the types of names spoken about here and even I am sometimes overwhelmed by names suggested. I find some extremely hard to wear, and reflecting too much of the parents' tastes onto their kids. They feel that just because they love an extremely obscure (as in the more obscure the better) name, their child will appreciate the attention given by that obscurity themselves. Also it feels like some parents are trying to assign a personality through the name, even though the personality will come on its own, and many times in ways that will surprise the parents.
Anyway, that's just how I feel, and I imagine how people who aren't used to seeing unusual/not popular names might feel as well. That or they think we're all slap crazy ;)
I'm totally a philistine... I don't like any of those names ;) there's nothing wrong with them and I appreciate their good qualities and would encourage another berry to choose one of them, but those are all a bit fussy for me personally. I think that's one difference between berries and non-berries: berries generally tend to be a bit more tactful when they dislike a name IMO, rather than reacting with "That's hideous and you're dooming your child forever if you name it that" to any name that isn't Sophia or Jayden.Quote:
There are certain names on Nameberry that are considered "good" and, if you don't like them, there's something a bit wrong with you. I'm thinking...Beatrice, Cecilia, Josephine, etc. When I mention one of these names to an outsider and they don't like it, I can't help but think they're a bit of a philistine.
I don't discuss names except with my mom, and even then pretty rarely, so I don't 100% know what the real world reaction to my favorites is, but I'm afraid for the day that I bring a little Mabel or Barnaby home from the hospital. My family members all chose pretty standard names for their kids - the most outlandish we have is Kora, and that's not that crazy by today's standards (my grandfather secretly told me he hates the way it's spelled, but it's mostly because he's in his 80s and can't always remember how to spell it). I'm sure they'd gush over how beautiful the name is if I told them I was naming a girl Sophia, but would probably be shocked speechless if I told them I loved Agnes for a daughter.
Binary Transmutation Conductor? Swoon! I think I just found the name for my first son ;)Quote:
Also, in a hundred years it could very well be Caden and Nevaeh that are the classy names, while less tasteful parents opt for 1003lyn and Binary Transmutation Conductor.
I remember when I first joined Nameberry and was surprised at the popularity here of names like Beatrice, Josephine, and Willa. I swear you can go to any random thread and find those three names listed as suggestions for consideration -- even if the person looking for suggestions has specified a very different style preference! It always boggles my mind that they are so popular. I recognize them as solid names with good taste, but I don't actually like any of them so the love they get on here is bizarre to me! But then others I love...I think Agatha is a truly gorgeous sounding name, and Aggie is such a cute nickname! And yet I know others immediately wrinkle their nose the same way I do when I hear Josephine.
The area I live in is about equally divided into the popular "vintage" names or the trendy "kree8ive" names. I don't actually know whether that would make my names seem more acceptable or less, because they are definitely weird but they're also real names with history behind them.
My area has very run of the mill names: Natalie, Emma, Noah and Ethan, among others. Classics (such as Elizabeth and Michael) aren't that common. There's nothing wrong with Ella and Aiden, but more unusual names raise eyebrows.
Especially since I'm fifteen, people tend to ridicule my name choices of Cordelia and Felicity, Matteo and Evander. "You'll change your mind when you're older." When I ask why they're so bad, people say, "They'll get made fun of." I'll usually just change the subject, as it's not worth the whole song and dance on new name trends.
Usually, now, I'll just share my more popular but not my favorite favorites, such as Isabel and Cora, Jeremiah and Julian.