Agree with this! Do you know what to teach? If not, why not nutrition related subject? ;)
Originally Posted by sleepysessha
Apparently I'm only few years older than you and still struggling with somewhat similar issue. Am a college junior right now, but not 100% sure this is what I want. I enjoy being in my major and my current job, but I still think that maybe, there is something else I will enjoy even more. When I chose my current path, I thought about something challenging, out of my comfort zone, and "something-that-I-imagine-myself-can-do-that-for-a-long-time-in-my-life/hopefully forever". Well, you know what I mean.
My family was okay with any options I considered that time, except medicine (more expensive, longer time to finish, you name it).
Choose something you love, Cara dear. Consider what your parent said but do not let them make the decision for you. It's your life, not theirs.
If you still not sure, try both. Learning is never a waste of time. Apply double major if you can manage that (okay, maybe I'm not the best adviser, lol) but only if you still love nutrition as well. Otherwise, being rebellious sometime can be necessary. Debate him, negotiate with him, anything that can make him understand your p.o.v. Good luck.
I graduated from university last year and I'd just like to offer my perspective: you can go into college with all the plans in the world and come out with absolutely no plans at all, and in the end it all works out for the best.
I decided I wanted to be an editor in a publishing company at a fairly young age--around the time I learned that authors don't make any money. In high school I worked in a bookstore gathering author and publisher contacts, went to college for creative writing, and completed an internship with a publishing company. When I got out, there were no publishing jobs to be found. I moved to a different country. I became a nanny. The little boy I was taking care of grew up and went to daycare. I found myself floundering again before I meandered back to my one true passion: writing. I'm now working as a freelance writer which somehow landed me a creative writing teaching job, which I never imagined myself doing but I'm quite enjoying it all the same.
In regards to your situation, a) never choose something your parents pick for you if you're not 100% behind it. I can't imagine being told by my parents that I couldn't do the major I wanted. This is your choice. When you go to university, you're an adult. Go for your passion. b) Your passion might not lead to the job you think it will. I think teaching is a versatile field. If you get into it and find that you don't want to be teaching in an elementary classroom year after year, keep your eyes peeled for other jobs. Maybe you could teach a variety of "extracurricular" classes for various age groups to keep things fresh and interesting for you. For instance, I remember doing scrapbooking lessons after school in the fourth grade. You could get creative. c) Depending on the type of person you are, financial security doesn't equal happiness. What your dad is probably aiming for is something that makes a bit more money that teaching does. If you're not happy in your field, I don't see how a bit of extra money is going to make it all better.
So I'm advising you to go to college for something that makes you happy. It's a long four years; I was stressed out enough doing something I liked. I can't imagine having done something I wasn't passionate about (biology, math, etc.)--I'm not sure I would have graduated! Just keep in mind that things might change after graduation and you're not locked into the precise job you went in for. There are other options and you might like them better than your initial plan.
Have you thought about combining your interests: teaching kids about nutrition?
Depending on what state you are in, look to see what the demand is for teachers. My sister is a teacher in the Southern California area, and has been laid off twice. She's just finished a long-term sub position and has no idea what she'll be doing in September. When she was working full-time, with a contract, she was able to make ends meet by living frugally, and save for the summer when she didn't have a paycheck coming in. She's been a substitute teacher for the past two years, and they are only able to make it because her (new) husband has a good job at a refinery.
In answer to your original question, when I was 11, there was a dumb terminal in the back of the classroom that we could play games on if we finished our work. I was fascinated by it, wanted to know more about how it worked. I found out, in my teen years, that computer science was a growing industry. I worked when I finished school because I couldn't afford college, and took classes at the local community college. I eventually was able to go to college full time. I have a dual major in computer science and economics. I loved computer programming. I retired when I had my first child (almost 10 years old now) and am thinking about what I want to do when my younger child is in school full time in a few years. Going back and retraining is a possibility.
You sound a lot like me when I was your age. I spent sleepless nights in high school agonizing over the perfect career path. I also put a ton of pressure on myself in college, pursuing something I thought I SHOULD do instead of pursuing something that I actually WANTED to do. I ended up having to go back to college for a second bachelor's degree because I was trying to please other people (family, professors) the first time around. My advice is to be open right now. I wish I would have spent my first year of college taking courses that interested me and exploring my options instead of worrying about my future career and what other people expected. I also recommend that you try to be a bit selfish right now and ignore the pressure you feel from other people. This is your life. You are the one who is going to have to wake up and go to work every morning. You should do something you love and are passionate about. This is an exciting time in your life. I hope you are able to take the opportunity to learn and grow. Once you get to college, you will find out about careers you never knew existed. Have fun and don't feel like you have to lock yourself into one thing right now. Best of luck!
Originally Posted by northernlights
You need to follow YOUR heart, not your parents'! If you want to be a teacher, be a teacher.
I can totally relate to your situation right now. I graduated high school a year early at 17 with no idea what I really wanted to do... I went to a small liberal arts school intending to go into creative writing or secondary ed. and languages, and got sidetracked in elementary ed. for a while. Then I went through an absolutely terrible breakup, dropped out of school, spent two years on a degree in Early Childhood ed., went back to the original liberal arts school intending to do Art Ed., but it would have taken me another three years, so I chose Art History as it was something I am passionate about and loved learning, and I could finish it in my timeline. Long story short: it took me 5 years to decide on a college major so I had no idea where I was headed until a little under a year before I graduated. Nobody pushed me to go in one way or the other fortunately, but I didn't really give them the option. I told my parents what I was doing and that was the end of the discussion - mom supported me and dad wasn't really around enough to care.
In any case, I really want to stress one thing: you absolutely do not have to decide what you're going to do for the rest of your life before you get out of high school.
Chances are good that you'll change your mind again once you get to college because suddenly there are so many options you never even thought of before. I'm not putting down either of your career ideas or saying you're wishy-washy, it's just what happens and that's absolutely okay.
Here's what I would do, if I could do college over (and I only graduated 2 months ago lol): Don't decide right now. If you can find a school that offers both elementary ed. and nutrition, go there and try both and then decide. If you can't find a school that has both, go to a community college for a year or two and do your general credits, get them out of the way. Then transfer. You'll save money, have time to get used to the college workload and schedule, and maybe get some new perspectives that help you make up your mind. By the time you get to the 4 year school, you'll ideally only have your major requirements left and you won't have to worry about trying to juggle your 10 hours of elementary ed. fieldwork and those two huge freshman english papers that are due (not fun - trust me, I've been there).
Of course that's just me, and anything that you decide is fine. It's not a right or wrong decision, and you can always change your mind. It sounds like you have at least half your parents' support and your dad will come around no matter what you decide, from your post it seems like they both love you and want you to be happy, so when you do make a decision, make it based on what YOU want and no one else. Everything else will fall into place. :) If you read this whole giant post you're a doll, and good luck!
I have this exact problem right now! I want to do a degree in Psychology, and my ultimate goal is to be a Child and Adolescent Psychologist, but my parents - particularly my mum in my case - want me to do Law. She keeps going on about how I won't get a job with a Psychology degree but I'll be "set" if I do Law (which is actually wrong because the universities I want to go to all have VERY high rates of employment for Psychology).
I know what I want to do and, at the end of the day, it's you who is going to have to, not just study this subject for a few more years, actually work in this profession for the rest of your life (or at least a good few years). Do what you want to do because, ultimately, it's you who will have the career you love. Your parents will be just as proud seeing you graduate, whatever you graduate in. Good luck! :)
This is my dilemma as well. I will be beginning my last year of high school soon and the questions about what I want to do in the future are all but rare. My mom wants me to go into English and be a book editor while my dad has mentioned the Navy and nursing. Fast-forward a few months or so of more research and now I have a goal to get a degree in nursing and eventually become a neonatal nurse or a neonatal nurse practitioner (if I choose to continue with schooling).
I agree with all the pps and especially allie_j's statement - "Your parents will be just as proud seeing you graduate, whatever you graduate in." Your parents just want the best for you and in the end, seeing you in a cap and gown with a diploma in hand will sweep away any previous degree disagreements. Do your research, make a plan and goal, and with passion in your heart, go for it!
Thanks for all your words of wisdom, everyone! It was very helpful to read your anecdotes and advice, and I appreciate it greatly! My dad still isn't really talking about my choice with me, but it seems he's come to terms with it and will support me with this choice. Teaching is really the only thing I can imagine myself doing; I've looked into other fields that I could work with children in, such as speech pathology and counseling, but nothing has clicked the way teaching has. I loved hearing all your suggestions, though!
So, again, thank you very much. You've helped me realize some things about life and myself that are very good to know; you've given me things to mull over. And for that, I'm grateful.