My SIL picked Aiden for her son because it was a Saint's name, Irish and she liked how it sounded. She didn't realize it was so popular (he was born in 2008) though until after he was born and it's only continued to get more popular.
I think she thinks a lot about how it sounds with little concern for popularity. She loved the name Emma for a girl.
My husband either likes a name or he doesn't. Sometimes it's because he know somebody with the name (we can't do Margaret since he went to school with a mean little girl named Margaret). But most of the time I'm not sure if there is a real reason why he dislikes a name or not. Just how he feels about it.
This is a great way of looking at it. My nephew is Matthew and my niece is Katherine. My sister chose them (and the equally common middles) for family. I know she tossed around a few more names that were a little less common, but in the end, those are what she chose. Would I have chosen names that common? Obviously not. But I don't fault her for them. They are good names and I'd rather meet little Matts, Jacobs, & Michaels and Katies, Sophias, & Elizabeths than Jayssens and Maddesyns.
Originally Posted by maggiefromcanada
I think most people choose names the same way we do, except most people don't a) research their favorite names, b) post extensively on baby name forums, c) scour every possible source for new options, or d) know the first thing about name popularity or naming trends.
Well, I have discussed this with multiple friends (all non-mother-teenaged-girls), and it really comes down to:
You know, I think Codi and Austyn would be cute on girls. And Doon for a boy.
One of my friends' cousins is named Navim, that's a pretty cool name.
I've always thought Victoria was an awesome name. And Xavier.
My children WILL be named God and Megatron. Because who doesn't want to be friends with God? And... I mean... MEGATRON.
And I'm just like, cool beans. I am in full support of #4 there. And #2, that IS a cool name. Of course, if I attempt to have more conversation about it, they get bored/confused/annoyed and tell me I'm overthinking things. And I'm like NO. You are UNDERTHINKING things.
I mean, asking the internet changes the scope and number of names, but not really the process. So it's probably the same as it is here, with less input and fewer names.
Wow, some of you are sensitive! I wasn't meaning to diss popular names at all...I just said the same names over and over again are boring, not that it's a crime or that the names are hideous or people who like them are bad namers or that there can't be some sort of meaning behind it. If you read all of that in my original post, I'm sorry; I re-read it and I don't feel like anything I said had any malice behind it.
I'm more interested in discussing what sort of tools a non-Berry would use to gauge the popularity or trendiness or likeability amongst peers of any given name. Perhaps I should have worded that more clearly.
lol. This site has so much drama is makes me laugh :D
Originally Posted by ameliawilliams
Anyway, tools... baby name books. I have two, I was going to use them for character naming, but then I turned thirteen and discovered the internet. So I just... have them... I still use them sometimes, just to take a look at what I'm not looking for. I imagine that a lot of parents do this. Buy one of those 50,000 name books, read the fun lists, skim the rest, pick out ones they like and go from there.
Or what my parents did: family names. Their grandparents. Their children. Same names!
On another forum I was seeing a lot of 'combine mine and my husbands name to make a baby!' But haven't seen any of that here?
To gauge popularity, how many do they know of? What names have their friends used? Ask around. Hey, you said your cousin had a baby last year, what name did she use?
Growing up I read Beyond Madison and Montana from cover to cover along with a few other naming books. You can get name books from the library and I think a lot of people just pull names from names they've heard while out or people they've met.
I wasn't a nameberry when picking my sons names - I used forums, books, friends and family. There are a LOT of opportunities to get name inspiration OTHER than NB. NB isn't the only name site either.
I do know that I'm a bit "name overkill" compared to my friends. And most of my friends tend to use the same names too - I know 8 newborn boys who was named Liam over the past 6 months and 5 girls named Caroline. I do tend to find it boring when people chose the same names over and over again, but then most of my friends find my name taste too adventurous (I can guarantee, if I didn't have a partner who keeps me "grounded" my boys would probably have more adventurous names.)
@ameliawilliams: I don't think your original post was mean or rude at all. I understood exactly what you were trying to say.
I agree that most people have the same process, just not quite as in-depth.