I'm really open with sharing here, but closed in real life. We had some hurtful comments from family & friends when naming our oldest and I don't want to go through that again!
What other people said--I don't mind sharing on here at all but people IRL won't know the names of my future children until the babies are in my arms! And that's both for the sake of not wanting the names "stolen" and to postpone any judgment.
I wouldn't share IRL either - I'm prepared for my mom & MIL to hate my name, but I'm not worried about the berries! Since they've helped me pick the first name for my first (due in Oct), I'll be back looking for middle help as well. Berries are so international I think the chance of running into one with the exact combo is almost nil.
I'm not worried about sharing on Nameberry. I doubt anyone would use one of my combos anyway, they're chosen more for personal meaning than sound. Also, even if they did, it's not like I wouldn't be able to use the name still. I don't know them and most likely will never meet them, so who cares if our kids have the same name? I don't share IRL because if a friend or family member did decide to use one of my names, I wouldn't be able to use it anymore. Well, I guess technically I still could, but it would be awkward.
Yep, what everyone else said! Nameberry is definitely my sharing forum. If I end up conceiving #3, the berries would probably even find out before my husband!! ;) well, a close second anyway!
But I never share names in real life. Even middle names. People have made the assumption that if we have a girl the middle name will be my MIL as our other daughter's middle name is my mum's. But I refuse to even confirm that! And it's not because I think someone will "steal" it, it's simply that people are so judgey judges that I couldn't stand people poo pooing my name ideas!
Ashley! Most of the classic, family-heirloom type names that I have loved for years are now coming back into style under the guise of vintagey-chic-hipster, so there's not much I can do, anyways. I'm much more worried about my future DH saying no to everything and having to start from scratch ;)
No, I think some of the names I like are not really many people's style. However, a few years ago, my friend was pregnant and ended up having a boy. She had been posting on a pregnancy message board and before she knew the sex, had shared her girl name (fn was pretty uncommon). Another girl had a daughter a little while later and changed the name at the last minute to the exact fn/mn combination my friend had decided on if her son had been a girl. It would obviously be way more annoying if it happened in real life, but I just thought that was odd when she told me.
@tct1219- that is very strange how she came up with the exact same combo or did your tell her the name and she used it? If not that is just a freaky coincidence!
While I think I have amazing favourite combos, I know most people don't "get them". I couldn't care less if someone used the names I love- I'm not so possessive to think I should keep my favourites under lock and key. Plus, it's not like I'm going to use all my favourites anyway. I've never strived for originality in my names, so when I see them repeated, I'm more excited someone else likes it, rather than disappointed.
That being said, I don't usually share my favourites in 'real life' because I know one person who'd be supportive of all of them, and everyone else would have nothing positive to say. Seeing as I'm not having a baby right now, I don't care to invite that kind of negativity in to my enjoyment of names as a hobby.