Please please help
I am freaking out.
My gyno back in Dallas told me to buy this "progesterone cream" from Arbonne. I used it this month to help prolong my LP. I got a BFP at 13 DPO so I did what everyone says you're supposed to do and kept using it.
I just ran out and I went online to see how much progesterone is in the cream so I could find a comparable cream at the health store.
No progesterone is listed in the ingredients. Here is what is listed:
• Black Cohosh
• Chaste Tree Berry
• Dong Quai
• Evening Primrose Oil
• Red Clover
Yeah. Black f***ing cohosh! Aka the abortion herb!
In very tiny letters under a bunch of other crap on the back "Do not take if pregnant."
I am completely freaking out thinking I killed my baby and if I did I'm going to find that gyno and make him wish he wasn't such a F***ING DUMBASS.
I don't know what to do. I am not spotting. Having very mild cramps every once in a while. I have not taken another test.
I don't know what to do. I am really scared. I don't know how much black cohosh is in the cream either.
Does anyone have words of wisdom? I'm so scared.
Oh my goodness, sweetie! Lots of hugs and try to calm down.
First of all, cramping can be anything as far as I know (I had some cramping last weekend, but it passed), but I'm not very knowledgeable about the early stages of pregnancy. I think you should take another test this second, or maybe even call your doctor. Not the gyno though (and I will help you kick his arse by the way!).
I don't have a lot of words of consolation, but the first few weeks of my last pregnancy (before I realised Roo was in there) I did a lot of terrible things, like drinking absinth, smoking various things I guess you shouldn't while pregnant. And it turned out fine. But I do know how long you've wanted to get pregnant, and this must be terrifying for you. I'm sending you so many hugs, and faerie-wishes that everything will turn out fine.
Ok, I have no words of wisdom to offer, but I wanted to let you know I'm praying for you! Like ottilie said, cramps can be normal. I'm almost 6 weeks and still get them daily. CALL YOUR DOCTOR ASAP! Explain what happened. And if it were me, I'd be calling that old OBGYN back in Dallas and demand answers! Hugs and best of luck! Keep us posted.
Thanks, Otter. I am scared to take a test. I may take one in the morning with FMU. I can't call my doctor cause its the weekend. And he'd just think I was nuts anyway because I'm not spotting.
I am trying to calm down. My friend said her OB told her there is not much you can do to shake a good pregnancy and not much you can do to save a bad one.
I am praying this little fella is strong. And I'm gonna go this afternoon to the supplement store and get some REAL progesterone cream.
I am just praying so hard right now that everything is ok.
I can't even begin to understand how scared you must be, but what your friend said is what I've heard as well. Know there are lots of people here who will be thinking about the two of you, and I will light candles and say enchanted words for you as well as send up a prayer, my dear. Try to relax and think happy thoughts.
Hi there - first off, I am so sorry you are going through this! I'm about 16 weeks and I've had a few of my own freak outs and it's just awful.
BUT - I do have some words that might help. ALL progesterone supplements warn to not use while pregnant!! I know, I know, it doesn't make sense. But it's the reality: I've taken progesterone during both of my pregnancies and both bottles said, very clearly, do NOT use while pregnant! There is, apparently, a risk of it causing birth defects - doctors weigh that with the fact that it can help women keep pregnancies that may otherwise end in miscarriage and the potential benefit generally outweighs the potential risks. It's a cost/benefit thing. I believe that's why pregnant women usually just use it during the first trimester, when it can be critical, and then you stop (tho I believe it's also sometimes used to prevent pre-term labor). The warnings are also the FDA's way of covering their own asses from lawsuit.
I get the feeling I'm not explaining this very well and I apologize, I've only been awake an hour or so. It's pretty confusing on its own. So here's an article or two, maybe they'll help? Overall - just BREATHE. Stressed out mommy isn't good for baby either! Drink water, lay down, and breathe as best you can. The pp who said that it's hard to mess up a healthy pregnancy and hard to keep a bad one is absolutely right - the reality is most of it is completely beyond our control. Lots of hugs!!!
PS. Also meant to say that, during this pregnancy, I spotted and cramped for most of the first trimester! No joke!! I really thought there was no way I was pregnant because it seemed like my period had arrived. A friend convinced me to test anyway - and she was right! But the spotting and cramping continued all the way up to about week 10. And it was continuous the entire time! We were totally freaked out and ran to the dr a few times but every time things looked good, now here we are at week 16. So for some women, it's just normal and it's just your body adjusting to the pregnancy. :)
Thanks so so much, Ottilie, and thank you, Tintri. I've been using this cream since right after I ovulated so maybe it's just helping create an ultra strong super baby. :-)
I thought when I got pregnant all the anxiety would be over. Oh my was I wrong. I feel like my resolve to relax and let go is being seriously tested. I have to decide NOW to quit worrying, to truly LET GO and accept that I have no power over what happens, or I am going to worry myself sick FOR NOTHING. Worrying will. not. help.
This will be one more interesting story I can tell this little dude one day. "Did I ever tell you about the time I took Wiccan miscarriage herbs while I was pregnant with you?"
Oh sweetie, that is so upsetting. I am NOT familiar with that cream, but I am hoping the amount of the cohosh is minimal. I am betting the Arbonne "progesterone" cream is really just a menopausal cream aimed at regulating hormones and hot flashes for older women, not for supplementing progesterone in early pregnancy.
I know it's difficult, but try to stay positive. You did not kill your baby. It's great you ran out so that you were able to realize what was in it, though.
Obviously speak with your Dr as soon as you can. It's very, very likely you may not even need real progesterone supplementation. Try to get a current progesterone level early next week if you can. Levels above 10ng/ml are adequate to support pregnancy, although I think most OBs or REs like to see numbers closer to >14-16ng/ml in the 1st trimester.
I know how upsetting this is. I used topical progesterone cream during my 1st trimester, but you know what?? I didn't have low levels of progesterone. I was just trying to do everything I could to support and keep the pregnancy so I used the progesterone cream. In retrospect I am sure the pregnancy would have stuck without it. My point is, I would be feeling EXACTLY how you are feeling, but if you can take a moment to remind yourself that your body knows what it is doing. There is a VERY good chance your body is producing the right amount of progesterone to support the pregnancy on its own without exogenous support.
Also, a lot of the most recent research isn't even clear if progesterone supplementation is really effective (ie necessary), yet it is just part of standard of care in fertility care.
We just have to believe that the amount of the black cohosh is minimal in that cream.
Thinking about you and sending you lots of hugs. You and your baby will be okay. I just hope you can get some reassurance soon because I know that is what you really need right now.
Christine, that helped so much. Thank you and thank you again.
I really am calming down. I talked to my mom, which helped. She is a non-worrier. :-)
Thank you, surfmama. That helped too. I am so glad I posted here. I really feel way better.
I think I will get the cream just to use for the weekend but call the doctor on Monday and see about a level check.