I don't have any children myself, but I'd imagine your reaction is pretty normal - I'm desperate for a girl, and I think I'll have the same reaction if I have a boy, but I'm sure it won't matter once I hold him in my arms.
Name wise, your girls' names are so beautiful and old fashioned, so I assume you would like a name to match?
Finn Charles, Oliver Maxwell or Henry Cole are a few suggestions :)
I saw your poll and you mentioned this thread, so I decided to search it out and pop over for a word of encouragement, though I'm sorry I can't read through all your pages of messages.
I have two boys, a girl, and another boy. After the two boys, I felt like I had the "frat house" thing down, so it was quite a shock to find out we were having a girl. It didn't take too long to get excited about her, though. Fast forward a couple of years and we're expecting again, and this time I'm thinking a pair of boys and a pair of girls would be just right. But...it wasn't another girl. I literally bawled. For days. I felt like the worst mommy on the planet! My own mother was very supportive, and she pointed out that I was having to let go of my grand "plans," and when my BOY arrived I would love him, and wonder why I ever wished for a girl. It took several weeks but I finally "braced myself" for the boy, and you know, my mom was right. He was beautiful and wonderful and perfect, and a year later he's the darling of the family.
As for cuteness of clothes...you MUST find a tiny suitcoat. And neckties. And dress shoes. And sweater vests. And newsboy caps. And dress shoes. My sister once told me that dressing up little girls is one thing, but dressing up little boys is even more adorable. One day, you'll take your brood to the photographer and be amazed at how easy it is to slip the girls into a dress and pop a bow into their hair...while the boy literally has a pile of a half-dozen garments to layer on and button up just so.
Don't worry so much about not having things ready for him. A lot of that fuss is just for making the mamas happy, anyway. We moved literally 3 weeks before my little guy was born, so there was no time for nurseries or decoration or anything. He even had to use his sister's pink fluffy hand-me-down blanket because that's what was unpacked, and you know, he doesn't seem to have suffered for it. I had an AWFUL time coming up with his name too, but we even managed to settle the family middle names before leaving the hospital. Don't work yourself into a funk. It will be okay!
I am due to have a little boy in July as well and we have not decided on a name either. I had hoped for another boy and thought we had a name before I even became pregnant... but nothing seems to fit right with him. I think (hope) the name will come to either me or my husband when the baby arrives. I have no name advice, but just know you aren't alone in having a "no-name" baby :-) Good luck!
Hey @wahpro, how are you feeling these days?
i'm sorry you are feeling the way that you are. our first was a boy...and i didn't realize it...but i guess i had secretly wanted a girl...because when we found out, i had a pang of disappointment. the hairdo's i wouldn't get to do, the outfits i wouldn't get to buy. seriously...walking into a store irritates me sometimes! the amount of darling girl things vs. boy! luckily, it didn't last long. i love my boy. he is sweet and loving and boys always love their mama! i painted some big murals on our nursery walls! it was a lot of fun! his room is funky and fun...and there isn't a football in sight!
as for the naming bit...we are having our second boy and it is just no fun thinking of a name! that's how i ended up here! what about xavier? or edward? good luck! and i hope you are feeling better soon!
Just start making a name list. A list is not a commitment to a name. Just brainstorm and don't think so much about your disappointment. Start coming up with your own do's and don'ts for names and make a collection of names. Perhaps you won't use any of the names on your list, but get the ideas going and you may start to see a pattern for what kind of boy names you would be happy with.
I have gender disappointment! However, I don't have two beautiful daughters to celebrate, as this is my first child. I grew up in an all-girls family and my sisters have little girls - I just didn't seriously consider that my first child would be a boy, so I was in shock for several weeks after the u/s.
However, I have since moved forward (mostly) and am really looking forward to this new experience for myself and my whole family - I think I have moved forward as much as I can. Of course I am hoping for a little girl next go-around.
It sounds like you could use some assistance in moving forward and you may want to seek out someone to talk to who can help you move forward! Your baby is your child whether he's a boy or girl, and he'll be here very, very soon! You should do what you can to try to mentally prepare yourself to bring the child into the world on an equal level with your other two children, and that includes naming. I'm not trying to be harsh - I just think you should try to move forward since he is nearly here.