Is this normal?
I'm due in six weeks so i'm feeling some pressure to pick a name. My husband and I used a method for narrowing down our lists that I believe originated with the Baby Name Wizard blog we assigned points to one another's lists and chose the two names that scored highest with both votes added together. The two names we narrowed to are Frederick North and Dominic Wolfgang. My problem is that I cannot choose between these names. Maybe it's my pregnancy hormones but one week it seems like Frederick is THE ONE and the next week I think there is no way I can pull the trigger on that name. There are bound to be plenty of people that just don't get it and as much as that shouldn't bother me sometimes it just does. That's when I start thinking that Dominic (my husband's pick) is safer and a cute name and that maybe I'll love it when it's attached to my son. Then I start thinking how much I dislike the nickname Dom and panic sets in and I think, would I have major name regret? I have been thinking on this for weeks now so maybe I've over thought it. Is it normal to feel so divided or is this a sign that I should go back to the drawing board and consider new names?
Maybe part of of all this is that I'm really grieving my first two choices Edmund and Thaddeus, neither of which my husband would consider.
Sorry for the rambling but did any one else out there go through this?
Oh Thaddeus is maahvelous!
But Frederick can be nicknamed Fritz! Doesn't Fritz just take the cake? Frederick North is a lovely combination.
Dominic is dark and handsome. There's always Nick... or Doc!
You can't go wrong. Sorry you're all in a muddle. :-(
I haven't but do you really have to decide before going to the hospital?
I think taking two - four choices with you and deciding on "the" name when you "meet" your kiddo is perfectly okay.
(With four you could add your guilty pleasure name and his.)
I think all of your names are wonderful, but this is you and your husbands decision, and I can't stress enough how important it is that you choose the name you love. I know when you're two it can be difficult, but you don't want to sit there a few months or years after feeling that you chose the wrong name. By now you're all hormones, I don't think introducing new names at this point is wise (it wasn't for me anyway, it made me all dizzy and I stumbled).
I think taking the names to the hospital is a good idea, do you have to choose the name before you're discharged in the states (assuming that's where you are)? If not, you can always mull it over for a few days. See what he feels like. My aunt took almost five months to choose her son's name.
Name regret is not fun at all, so I advice you to tread carefully.
I am in the EXACT same shoes, with 6 1/2 weeks to go. I have 2 top choices (and a few runners-up, and a few wild cards in the back of my mind...). I am trying desperately to choose, but it's soooo hard. I am a big time planner, and going to the hospital without a decision is scary to me. BUT the more I think about, it makes so much more sense than naming a person you haven't even met. I am starting to think maybe it's best to wait and hopefully avoid name regret :/
It is hard for me to relate because we had our son's name picked out 2 years before he was born and it never once fell out of our #1 spot. We knew we'd have a son with this name someday, we just had to wait for him to arrive. The name was set in stone and it suits him perfectly and we have zero regret. However... we cannot seem to fall in love with anything for #2. We were SO sure the first time that now its hard to set something in stone the same way again. Naming is serious business! Hormones don't help, but I know you can do it!
All I can suggest is what others have said. Meditate on them, try them out loud by "using them" as if you were calling him for dinner or something. I've even heard of people using the name themselves to see how it would feel to own that name, hard to do with the opposite gender, but maybe your husband can wear the names for a couple days each; order a Starbucks as Dominic. If it sounds super silly to you, maybe the name isn't right. I don't know. Mull it over in your mind and try to feel what is in your heart. If that doesn't work, just wait until you meet him. He might come out looking exactly like a Dominic and you couldn't imagine having chosen Frederick. Or vice versa. Or maybe your husband will gasp, "He is totally an Edmund Thaddeus!!" ;)
You can do it! Don't doubt your gut! Good luck!
I feel your pain. I go from one boy's name to another. Somedays one name is definitely "the one", the next day it isn't. Some days my partner tells me he now loves the one name I used to adore, but that he nixed months ago so I had totally let go of. We go round and round.
I think it's normal to be undecided at this point if you still have several choices. We were able to get our girl's name set, so that has given me some relief, but we've never had THE boy's name and still don't. The other problem is that I am still coming across new names that seem to be contenders.
I guess my advice is (this is like the blind leading the blind here) this: Do either of your names have any sort of family significance? I am finding that to be the one factor that helps me sift and sort my options. It has been the deciding factor for the girl's name and the boy's middle name. The other suggestion is to double check that your husband still is vetoing Thaddeus and Edmund. Men are fickle creatures. They tend to change their minds and opinions on names even more than we might. Finally, I would try not to stress about it too much. It may be the type of decision that decides itself once your son is here. With all of that said, I do agree with Ottilie to tread carefully and be very clear within yourself before you commit to a name. And that is sooooo difficult to do with all of these hormones running through our bodies :)
Good luck! You have great choices, and I think that your son will have a fantastic name no matter what you decide upon. Can't wait to see.
Both Frederick and Dominic are excellent names! You can't go wrong!
We're still stuck, and I'm due this week! For what it's worth, I think Dominic is a great name but LOVE Frederick North.
I understand what your going through! I brought a few names to the hospital with me but had one name that always spoke to my heart as number one and so happy I went with my instincts! It sounds like Edmund and Frederick are the names you love. I don't think your husbands picks will ever grow on you. Also great names but they don't seem to speak to your heart. Maybe try and explain this to your husband? Worth a shot! And good luck!!