@rosebyanyothername: ooooh, I'm so jealous your anatomy scan is tomorrow! Mine is July 16th and it feels like it's taking an ETERNITY to get here. We already know the sex of the baby so that's nice but I really want the reassurance of knowing the anatomy scan looks good and things are definitely on track like they should be. I know i'm going to be super nervous that day, I can't wait for it to be done. Good luck tomorrow, I'll be thinking healthy, happy baby thoughts for you! Are you going to find out what you're having?
Hello all! Just found this thread and read all of your entries. It is nice to think of having compatriots on this journey. I am due with my first on November 30th. I was terribly ill in the beginning and was busy finishing up my master's degree. Now I have hit a sweet spot. The nausea is gone and I don't feel very pregnant AND I am done with school. I can tell that my uterus is protruding, but I have actually lost weight (I had a high BMI to start with and my midwives would like to see me have a negative-0lb weight gain!) I am just not as hungry as I used to be. I keep on thinking I might be feeling the baby move, but am never 100% sure!
The baby is a boy. I had a CVS done at 11 weeks with microarray and he looks normal as far as his chromosomes go. It took us a long time to get here. We had been trying for almost two years and been using fertility drugs for the last six months. I have PCOS. I really wanted a girl, because I was worried (and continue to be so) that a boy represented an increased autism risk. There are so many stupid theories out there but I feel that I have a lot of risk factors that I have seen in peer-reviewed journal articles (increased testosterone, increased DHEA, autoimmune issues including constant high C-reactive protein and lupus anticoagulant, gluten and dairy sensitivity, increased cortisol response from my PTSD, use of fertility drugs, increased BMI, insulin resistance, rh negative, etc.) But he's a boy, and that's who he is supposed to be apparently! I just keep on trying to remember that there is a far greater chance that he will be fine than the other way around. Somedays I feel fine, but somedays I worry. I am also just a born worrier and list maker. I don't know why autism scares me so much - I just fear that if it were to happen, it would be because of my dumb ole' body which is less than perfect. I have heard that pregnant women often have a nice sense of calm about the baby's well-being kick in at some point...did this ever happen to you? I am just so excited that we even made it to this point! We wanted a baby for a long time and were starting to worry it just might not be in the cards for us.
Right now I am sitting at home with a terrible sinus infection and cold. I am used to just throwing tons of cold medication at the problem, but this being pregnant and riding it out with tea and tylenol does not really suit me! I am quite bored! There's only so much TV I can watch!
Oh, and names! That's been hard too! I had my girl name completely sorted. She was going to be Anthea Russell, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. But for this little guy, we have yet to find his perfect moniker. We are currently between Amias, Baxter, Clyde, Cashel, Hartley, and Zeller. I feel like he is probably going to be Zeller as I sometimes refer to him as Zeller the Feller or Zelly Belly, but most times he is just Mr. Baby. I don't know... still searching for the name that sounds perfect! I think my top picks would have been Calvin or Foster, but DH's last name doesn't sound right with either!
I am having fun dreaming up his nursery and amassing a frightening stash of cute and tiny thrifted baby clothes! I hope you all are well!
Hi Rose, I think it's full-term (37 weeks). If it's still too near the cervical os, you're treated like a previa and not permitted to go into labor, so a section is scheduled. So I have 20 more weeks, fingers crossed.
Originally Posted by rosebyanyothername
@marsy I had a progressive continuum of calm, that really started at 24 weeks (viability). But of course I've seen these horrible micro-preemies born as 24-6 weeks with lifelong disabilities and complications so once I hit 28 weeks, where survival is excellent and neurological/ophthalmological/pulmonary complications decline, I felt better. Then 36 weeks was the real sweet spot.
Personally I'm scared to death of autism, too. I think some people really are cut out to parent a special-needs child, and I have deep doubts about myself being one of them. I think I could handle a medically complex child but not a cognitively/behaviorally delayed child well. I think it's in the back of anyone's mind who's having a son, personally.
Thank you so much for your feedback blade! I feel the same way about medical challenges vs. cognitive delays. But I'm trying to be as healthy as possible and have taken prenatals prior to conception and am generally eating well! Somethings are in our control and most things are out of our control...
Hi everyone! Had my anatomy scan this morning. Everything looks great, measuring right on track, and feeling goodish (still some nausea/vomitting here).
We are officially having a girl!!! I have to admit there is a slight disappointment about not being a boy but I think I would have been a little disappointed no matter what. Both genders are just so fun and have their unique charms. But I am SUPER excited that Ramona will have a sister!!
Had my boy name all sorted and now we have no clue with girls so the fun naming journey can really begin :)
Also to Blade and Marsy I completely agree with you about the developmental cognitive disability thing. I have 2 developmentally disabled sisters (including 1 with autism) and I work with special needs children. Instead of making me more confident I think all of that experience has made me hyper-aware of how hard it is and how consuming it can be for families. Its something I have a lot of guilt about because I have long been an advocate in my own settings for the disabled but I pray for my own children not to be.
My mom says that having disabled kids its the sort of thing (like the death of a child, or going blind or having terminal cancer) that few people have the reserves or the ability to deal with in advance. If/when it happens to you, you learn how to become a different version of yourself that your child needs. And even knowing this and seeing how well she did raising my sisters I still hope it doesn't happen to me...
Congrats Rose! I'm so glad everything looks good. Your perspective is really interesting; if you don't mind me asking what kind of work do you do?
Since I started this thread I've edited the first post to include a running list of everyone who's joined thus far, their due dates, and the gender if known. If I missed anyone I do apologize; let me know your info and I'll add it.
I don't mind at all Blade- I am a speech pathologist, right now I am contracted to work with the local public school system. I also used to teach special education before I went back and got my M.S.
@blade: Kind of a separate question but something I've been confronted with a couple of times in the last few days. What do you think about people who feel like ultrasounds are dangerous for the baby? What I mean is, what do you feel about the issue and how would you respond? I've had a few more than usual because of my previous loss and I haven't been able to find any research that backs up the claims it's dangerous at all. Am I wrong again?
That's interesting Rose. I feel like in a lot of ways, I am in the same boat. I am a therapist/social worker and have seen almost every cognitive, behavioral, etc. thing that can go wrong. Being that close to it, I think I am more aware of just how hard it is, which has only scared me more! Although, today I am having a good day and not dwelling! Jut enjoying the tiny flutters of Mr. Baby in his watery home and the first day my sinus infection has let up! Thanks for your insight...